Just thought I would share...

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Just thought I would share...
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 3:51pm
I just want to say that this is a great message board and that I am glad that I have found a place where I can share what and who I have found and not get any funny looks about it. I guess it would be best to give you a little bit of background info.

The night I had went into the chat room, I did not have any intention of meeting or really talking to anyone. It had been about five months since I had went into a chat room and the only reason I had went in was because I was stuck in the house because of snow storm and I was bored. Another reason that I did not have the intentions of meeting anyone was because I had just ended a relationship on Valentine's Day (he pushed me too it. That breakup was a long time coming). Anywho... I was in a chatroom talk to the whole group having a discussion about music or books or something like that I had gotten a few whispers or IMs and just talked as usual. I didnt think nothing of them. But there was one person that I had been really clicking with. We both left the chat room and started talking on MSN Messenger. We were talking on there for about 30 minutes when he asked could he give me a call. I was being hesistant because I didn't know this person but I told him that I would think about when I went and take my shower. So I go and take my shower and I think that when i come back that he would be off or forgot. Well he didnt. He kept asking very nicely and I was getting tired of sitting in front of my PC and my eyes were starting to hurt and I did wanna get comfortable. So I gave him my number to call me.

Yes he did call me that night and I didn't think nothing would come of the conversation. But after about 2 minutes of almost dead silence we started talking like we were old friends and ended up staying on the phone for almost four hours. He and I clicked instantly and I was really shocked by it. But we talk like every other night on-line and we talk on the phone every weekend. I mean from what this guy has been telling me, he almost is what i have been looking for. He's single, has a job with benefits, has his own place, his own car, has never been married and the best part is that he doesn't have any kids!!!! (Majority of my past relationships have invovled baby mamma drama, a divorce that refuses to get finalized and guys still living at home with their parents and using me as a ride and for spare change) I am not putting all of my faith in one guy right now and I am out and about meeting other guys too but at this point in time it feels right. After a month I am almost comfortable saying that but it still freaks me out a little bit. We both are trying to figure out where did we get this chemistry from why did we click so well?

I haven't told anyone about him yet. I don't wanna say anything until after we meet(He lives in Tennessee and I am in Texas. He is going to come and meet me in the summer when school is out for me and he is able to really use his vacation days). I wanna see how this goes before i let anyone close to me know what the deal is. And then another thing that I have to worry about when we meet and we do click even better and I tell my parents and other people close to me that he is a little older than me besides the fact the we met in a chatroom. He is 33 and I am 21. I mean it doesnt freak me out because I have talked to guys that much older than me before but i have never let my parents know that. But anyway I just thought that I would share what I have found because if I hadn't I was going to explode. If you anything to say just post it.

"Candie"

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Sat, 04-05-2003 - 12:13pm
Welcome to the family :) You'll find a lot of gals here with great insights into this crazy world of cyberconnections! Check out the homepage above, you're not alone :)

Jayecey

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:48am
Thank you for sharing your story Candie, I'm glad you fell upon the board as well. I think I felt about the same way as you did when I find this board, I had been dating online and felt no one understood where I was coming from on everything. Then I found this board and realized I wasn't the only person to ever fall in love online and I had found a great group of women to share my feelings with that understood where I was coming from. I hadn't had any intentions on starting a relationship online and I had the same amazing chemistry. I don't know where it comes from, but its so great why worry about it ;).

Your relationship sounds like its going wonderfully. Online relationships do often lead to very happy endings. I, myself, married my online love (OL) and we now have a daughter. Please keep us updated! and ~~**@@~~**Welcome**~~@@**~~

~Kristina

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 5:00pm
Wow, well it sounds great!! I can totally relate to the whole, I was just on line cause I was bored and not looking for anyone, then WAM! YEh, I got that with mark. One question? I am in Tennesse as well. Where is he? I may be able to get you some dirt on him! lol Im kidding. Seriously. Let me know and I will check it out for you. lol email me if you dont want to post his name on here. twinklelitlestar@hotmail.com

Gail
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Registered: 04-10-2003
Tue, 04-15-2003 - 7:49am
Candie-

I think most of us can relate to the "instant connection" thing on this message board! My guy and I met by accident as well and neither of us were looking for anything. These things just happen (though I believe in fate and he doesn't)......good luck and keep us informed as to what's happening! Jemma

p.s. My guy and I make up funny different ways that we met to tell people because we are both so embarrassed it was on line! We'll say "we met in an airport" , "we met in the supermarket", "we met in a pub".....total lies! :)
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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 12:23pm
Oh that is cute! Mark did that too, while he was talking to someone about a job here. They asked how we met, since he told them I was his contact here...he told them I had visited Scotland and thats how we met. He of course called me immediately, telling me and asking if I was okay with him saying that. I just laughed. It is difficult sometimes telling people how you met your SO. :)

Gail
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 04-17-2003 - 10:57pm
hi my name is sheila and i wanted to let you know that i have gone through the same thing. about 6 monthes ago i met my fiancee offline. like you i was just sitting around bored, and decided to go into a chatroom. I had no idea i would meet my soulmate or furture husband. My story is a little diffrent though, see he lives in england and i lie n michigan. but we have made it work, i love him so much, i recently just got back from england and got enganged. i would love to tell you more, so if you wanna chat email me at outgoing1978@ yahoo.com. by the way I m 24 and he is 19, so i know how you feel about the age thing. Trust your heart thats what i say, go with what it's teling you