Just what is an online relationship??..
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|Thu, 05-22-2003 - 11:03pm|
The first is simple, it's based on a connection through a dating service. Generally a few emails are exchanged, a couple of telephone calls are made and a meeting is set up asap. You can meet many people this way and in my opinion, the fact that you may meet 50 or 100 people does not mean that you're a player. I know it's not fair to akin it to shopping for shoes, but the principal is the same, you try out a date, like shoes, and if it doesn't connect or fit..next.
The second is a little more complicated and I think a lot of people have a hard time understanding how two people can form a loving relationship like this. It starts out at in a chat room, game room, possibly a dating service (as in my case), there's usually a bit of back and forth chatter. A friendship develops and you usually set up in some kind of private chat like icq or msn and take it to telephone. You message live and exchange emails on your off times. As the friendship deepens, it starts to become exclusive. You start using different tools for communicating, live talk through the computers, webcams to see each other. Live talk and cams are used when it's impossible to meet and the only reason why you can't meet right away should be because of the logistics of the distance that seperates the two of you.
You can certainly develop a relationship with someone you've never physically met. Using webcams enables you to look into their lives, see their expressions, watch how they deal and interact with events surrounding them. It's the next best thing to being there.
I can't imagine a strong relationship forming strictly over emails. I just don't think it's possible. I also don't believe in instant infatuation, an attraction yes, a curiosity yes, a connection yes, but definately not love or deep feelings. That takes a lot of time and communication. Everyone should be aware of that.
In an ideal situation, everyone would meet as soon as possible, but the fact is that forming relationships through the use of the internet is not limited to communicating or meeting someone in your neighborhood, it's worldwide and it's a choice.
Yeesh...looks like I used up my 2 cents lol
I'd love to hear other interpretations!