Keeping a good attitude with OLD

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Keeping a good attitude with OLD
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Fri, 07-21-2006 - 1:21pm

Keeping a good attitude with OLD

We hear all the gripes and complaints/disappointments with OLD (on line dating) but let’s post a thread stating some of the positive things about it.

1. It allows you to meet people you wouldn’t be able to otherwise w/out it.
2. It increases your odd’s of meeting someone
3. It can be an education – learning dif’t backgrounds and professions
4. You can build networking skills – be invited to functions or parties even if no love connection thru your date (s)
5. Go to cool places you wouldn’t go on your own thru dating
6. Knowing that one day – eventually you will meet a guy that is perfect for you and you’re perfect for him & he won’t let you go!

Avatar Image"The Small Peanu
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Sat, 07-22-2006 - 11:52am

Sure! These are my positives:


1. You can "weed out" someone you wouldnt end up connecting with b4 spending too much time & energy on them or hoping it works out & then being dissapointed


2. You can be "picky" if you want


3. You can "shop", lol, as I call it - in the privacy of your own home - for the perfect person

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Sat, 07-22-2006 - 7:36pm
Great post Ms. Peanut!
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Tue, 07-25-2006 - 9:41am
I totally have to agree with you on this one. I am new to the online dating after being in a marriage 18 yrs. I was devestated when it ended, actually we are going through a divorce, almost a year. He moved on way before the marriage ended and recently I have started feeling like meeting new people. After the breakup of my marriage, I was completely devestated and wouldn't have thought I'd even consider wanting to meet anyone for years... However,some friends suggested match.com and if for nothing else, I have such an ego boost that I now know I will find someone else (when I am really ready for that) I have gotten so many emails and so much attention, it has been so good for my ego. I could have never imagined being single again at 42 .
I have only been on about 3 weeks and because my daughter is my number 1 priority and I have her full-time, it is very difficult to meet anyone. Right now, I am just having fun with emails and talking. I have met one person because my schedule is very difficult for now and was very nervous because he kept telling me he'd never dated anyone his own age (43), always younger women up to 10 yrs . We went out and afterwards he sent a very sweet email and wants to go out again. I think more than anything I signed on to see what kind of response I'd get and for now until I am completely ready, I am just having fun with the whole thing. I do know when I start meeting a lot of people, it will be more difficult and maybe not so much fun b/c I will see the real person...
I guess for now, just the attention I am getting is enough.
Hopefully, in a few months my divorce will be final and I'll be ready to get out more.
If you are just getting back into the single scene, the attention sure can't hurt
: ) Lisa
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Registered: 06-04-2006
Tue, 07-25-2006 - 11:21am
This is a great list of pro's to OLD. I have met so many friends through old. As a matter of fact, this guy David I met 3 years ago on match.com has become one of my closest confidants! I have sinced moved from the city we lived in, but he's flying here to visit me this thursday. we're going to a baseball game, a museum and six flags together over the weekend! he's become a great friend, and without a doubt i wouldnt have met him otherwise.
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Registered: 05-06-2006
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 9:17am

Lisa,

I totally agree with you. I too joined Match.com to get to feeling that I can date again. I'm 50, so it's a little harder for me, and yet it has been a great experience.

Since I am not looking for the love of my life, I can just relax and enjoy meeting new people. And having any kind of a positive response has been good for my ego.

Good luck with your divorce.

Elsa