Kind of annoyed
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| Sun, 07-30-2006 - 12:02am |
Met a guy on match a few weeks ago, but between both of us traveling, we hadn't seen each other since. He called me one night last week (late), and said how bad he felt since we hardly knew each other, but he was desperate for a ride home from the airport. And yes, it was late, and yes, I barely knew him, but I've also been in that horrible position when you need help and don't know anyone in town - so I drove him.
Anyway, it was about a 120 mile round trip (he lives in the metro area, but not really near the airport) and well, I guess I was a little annoyed that he didn't offer to pay for gas. I would have said no, because I was planning on trading the car in the next day and didn't want to waste money on gas, but it would have been nice for him to offer, since it was such a long drive.
Am I wrong to be a little annoyed by this? I've been in the situation where someone uses me for a car, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do. He did offer to take me out to dinner, which I thought was a little odd. Why not gas?



Hmm, interesting. One of my best friends is going to be giving me rides to and from the airport when I go to Boston this week and I told him I'd take him out to dinner as a thank you. To me, offering money is just kind of tacky...I think it's nicer to do something nice for the other person, like take them out to dinner. But, OTOH, the airport here isn't anywhere CLOSE to a 120 mile roundtrip.
So I don't know...personally I'd rather get taken out to dinner than get paid cash for gas (or have it offered). But of course, if you're dating him, he should be taking you out anyway ;-). It better be a REALLY nice restaurant, LOL!
Sheri
I think he should have at least OFFERED to fill yoru tank wiht gas once you guys got nearby home. Thats a long trip to take to help somoene you barely know out.
When you do someone a favor you look for gratittude and willingness to reciprocate...
I think the guy was better off posting an ad on Craig's list to carpool with someone coming from the airport on that day.
He left his car keys in the hotel room out of town, and didn't realize it until he got back - that's why he called me. Placing an ad on CL wasn't really an option.
I guess I just feel kind of used. I've had people use me for my car before, and it really sucks.
Well, if he doesn't take you out to a nice dinner very soon, then I could see feeling used. But if he does do that, then I wouldn't.
Sheri
That's exactly correct. I didn't WANT the money, ESPECIALLY since I was planning on trading the car in the next day. And even if I wasn't, I wouldn't have taken it. But the offer would have been nice.
Maybe it's that I always offer gas money if someone is driving me a long way, especially at 11 at night.
But like Sheri says, I'll see if he takes me out to dinner next time.
OMG I'd be so annoyed at that. He could have called a cab, couldn't he have???
Melanie