? for the ladies - should I list income

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? for the ladies - should I list income
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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 7:10pm
Ok:
I'm a male on Match. Should I list my income ? (>150k). I don't care if I attract gold diggers - I can handle them. But would that scare off a quality girl, because it might make me look "insecure" ?

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 7:15pm

Well; I live in LA and 90% list their income so I don’t have much choice. It doesn’t matter either way because it’s all about having a connection in real life that matters in the end. You’ll know whether or not your gal is money driven the moment you meet her.

I personally would rather people didn’t list – I think the guys with salaries of 100K or more will attract more women; just the way it is then lets say someone who makes 50K a year. So you need to decide how important that is to you. I had a BF once that was so humble if we went to Venice and he had muscles the guys would ask you work out at GOLD’s and he’d say YES just to fit in whereas he actually worked out at Sports Club LA which is a pretencious high end gym. He also lived in the Palisades and down played where he lived by saying he lived in LA. I liked that about him, I didn’t even know he was that successful until we dated a handful of times – see, I liked him for him but in the end he had a breath issue (long story) that broke us apart, sigh.

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 7:17pm

Personally, I don't think it makes you look insecure. If you know how to spot those gold diggers- then I say go for it. But then again I'm one of those people that answer all the profile questions honestly. ;)

I prefer when the income is given. I'm looking for my equal and it's important to me that my partner understands how I grew up, the lifestyle I live and can fit in with my family. Income level is one of the indicators I use to figure that out.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 7:24pm
Honestly, I don't see the point of listing income. I think that is private (no one in real life knows) and I don't list mine publicly unless I have no choice.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 8:08pm

This is a great question. I'm not in Bill's boat (yacht) but mine is pretty nice. I have gone back and forth on the "should I put what I make" question.

On the one hand, I'm kind of into the honesty-in-advertising thing. Of course, "no answer" is honest; it's not very complete, but at least it's not a LIE.

When I put my income I did notice one thing- I seemed to get a higher number of gals who were very definitely into the idea of families. I took that to mean that they saw the amount and figured they'd have some security.

In the end, I settled for not listing my income but my profession is on my (now hidden) profile. I figure anyone who's motivated enough to be interested in me can do a web search and quickly find out roughly what I make, and yet for someone who's only searching on the income box it's not going to tell them anything.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 8:48pm

When I see that a guy makes that much $$ I take it with a grain of salt anyway.

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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 8:52pm
How on earth would someone do a web search to find out how much you make???
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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 9:28pm
I list mine because I think people use it as a screen -- mostly because they don't want to get stuck supporting a guy. I couldn't care less if people don't believe me.
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Registered: 03-05-2004
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 9:37pm

I don't list salary on my profile and do not care what a guy makes. To me, the important factor is that he works to support himself.

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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 9:47pm

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I'm with you, Michele

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 10:09pm

Well, on most of the OLD sites that I've used, when you do a search you can set the search criteria to filter out people that you're not interested in.

So if you want to find someone making, say, over $150K, you just click that in the little search filters and away you go. Same for if you want someone who is white, or over 6 feet tall, or has no children, or whatever.

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