Ladies...here's another ghost!

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Ladies...here's another ghost!
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 6:07pm
I don't get this at all....here's the deal:
I've been im'ing this guy for about three weeks, pretty much every day. We've only spoken on the phone a few times during this time, but we talked about so many different things on the computer, music, movies, past relationships, ex's, kids....you name it. We seemed to have so many things in common and our thoughts were almost exact at times. I would typing something he was had just im'd and vice versa. He actually called me on my cell on my way home from work last night and we had decided that we would finally meet this weekend, sat night. We have been planning this since the week before last actually, because he had his kids and I had mine last weekend. So, THIS weekend would work great. We hadn't confirmed a time or place, he offered to come over closer to me and I thought that was nice, but the only thing we talked about was Sat night. While we were on the phone he had another call come in, said it was his kids and would call me back. No problem...he never called back...still, no prob...maybe something came up. He has 3 kids and one is a diabetic on an insulin pump. so there are problems with him from time to time....whatever. So, today, i get online and im him "good morning"...nothing. Oh, he always signs in as invisiible, so I don't know if he's really online or not, but i im anyway. Later today, I im again and say, "hey, hope everything is ok with you...drop me a line or a call when you have a minute"...nothing.
But, here's the really weird thing....his profile is suddenly down from match and yahoo...he's gone from both. Is that too weird...and I don't think it's a coincidence that i'm suddenly not hearing from him and his profile is all the sudden gone. It was there yesterday...i saw it. I know some of you might think he's married...I doubt it . He talked so much about custody and being divorced since Dec 2001....very specific about details surrounding divorce.
Anyway...what do you guys think? Would love to hear any thoughts about what might have happened to this guy. Very very weird to me.
Thanks for any input
Kelly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 2:09pm
unfortunately that happens more times than we'd like to say. As for me, I'd be p*ssed. That's just flat out rude. And you deserve ALOT better. Just try to let it go and know that everytime you think of him, email him or text him he's getting a "point" and he doesn't deserve it!! On the other hand, I'm a very sensitive person and I'd probably sulk for a couple of days and blame everything on myself....but DON'T do that, okay!!! Next...
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 2:28pm
Donna, you and I sound very much alike! I mean, this all went down just yesterday and I'm feeling like such a fool. I was so looking forward to meeting this guy too. It's funny, when I first saw his picture, I immediately had a good feeling about him. So much for "good feelings", huh? It will take a few days to get past it. All the things we talked about and seemed to be on the same page, but it's obvious he either is married or has a live-in and was busted. The profiles are gone and to me, that means he really must have been busted like so many of the others suggested.
Thanks for your kind words.
Kelly

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