The "Laid Back" Guy

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The "Laid Back" Guy
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 11:03pm

I read this a in a lot of profiles.

What do you think it means, to men and to women? I'm sure something different.

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To me, I picture blue collar type, not into going out too too much, basically a homebody (in other words, a perfect match for me!)

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Registered: 07-18-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 11:09pm
to me it means someone who is not looking for a commitment...just go with the flow.
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Registered: 09-14-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 5:39am
I think it means that it takes alot to rile him up and stuff doesn't get under his skin as easily as others. I don't think it has anything to do with whether he wants a commitment or not. Laid back = easy going.
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Registered: 01-10-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 6:11am

To me it means that he's not a type "A". Doesn't need to be on the go all the time. Which is what I would prefer.

It's funny though. I dated a guy once who said he liked to "work hard, play harder" and he was the one of the most laid back guys I met! It makes you wonder how accurate some people are when describing them selves. Hmmmm......

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 10:59am

agree. Laid back is unassuming, takes a lot to get his feathers ruffled. You can yell at him and he'll say yes I understand but he doesn't get emotional back unless you really piss him off. He's the kind of man that gets along with almost all personality types. He may also be "passive agressive" so be careful - passive agressive doesn't work for me, they will avoid confrontation and issues down the road in your relationship at all cost.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:41am
It's so difficult to meet men who want to go out and enjoy things -- like a baseball game, spontaneous road trip, or show consistently (key word!!). I'm so tired of the "come over and watch a video" type date. For me, if I read "homebody" in their profile, I would be turned off -- thinking they don't really enjoy getting out much and prefer being at home the majority of the time. Interaction is important -- keeps the relationship lively and creates memories. Staying home is cool at times, but for it to be the majority, is a major turnoff to me!
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:26pm
I could take it many ways: a guy who's not looking for committment, a guy who it takes a lot to get him going, or a guy who just likes to take it easy. I do think a lot of guys use that to describe themselves online, a little too often, I think! LOL

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:49pm
You can be outgoing and laid back. Think of all your friends, you have some that are outgoing but more laid back in the sense that they are always pleasant, seldom get upset, seem pretty happy with their lives but they are not high strung. To me it can be a positive thing. I’d rather have that then ADD man who can’t sit through a movie. I am laid back at times – yes I can be bubbly but as a rule I can go with the flow and am outgoing. I enjoy staying in as much as I enjoy going out.
 
 
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:35am

I decided to bump this (yes an old post).... would you consider someone who wanted to date someone casually let's say 2 or 3 times a month laid back or that person is not into them? I have a friend that recently dated someone and when it was convenienet for him and his busy schedule he'd call her and ask her out, and he considered himself laid back. She wanted a relationship or an idea he might eventually want one and he couldn't promise her that. A mutual friend said that it was a personality trait, he was more laid back about it then she was and I disagree, I think laid back means easy going...

Would you like fish for dinner, sure, sounds great! To me this man wanted a dating buddy when it was convenient for him or he wasn't looking for a relationship with her.

When she said laid back I remembered this post! Guess laid back has a million definitions...interesting???

SP

 
 
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 11:41am

I do not consider what he is doing laid back. Someone who is laid back is just easy going not really confrontational just goes with the flow.

He just sounds like when he's up for something he'll call. Not really that interested in having a serious relationship.

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Tue, 11-22-2005 - 5:46pm

I agree it has many different definitions. Guy #2 I dated for a few weeks "claimed" to be easy-going and laid-back. His profile even said this. MY definition of easy-going and laid-back is translated as "easy to get along with". However, once this guy decided that he couldn't see me riding a Harley for 300 miles, his laid-back and easy-going personality was anything but. He became cold, aloof, and withdrawn. I didn't see it coming and blindly assumed that someone laid-back and easy to get along with would not likely "bail" as quickly on someone. I foolishly thought it might mean they had more staying power in a relationship--might possibly be more stable. But, I soon found out that no matter what they say in person or in their profile, they can quickly do a complete reversal.

So, the definition of "laid back" is pretty subjective depending on the guy's interpretation. He can claim to be any type of personality he wants, but if his actions are not in harmony with what he says, he is kidding himself as well as whoever he dates.

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