The "Laid Back" Guy

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Registered: 07-03-2004
The "Laid Back" Guy
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 11:03pm

I read this a in a lot of profiles.

What do you think it means, to men and to women? I'm sure something different.

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To me, I picture blue collar type, not into going out too too much, basically a homebody (in other words, a perfect match for me!)

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Tue, 11-22-2005 - 7:31pm

"....once this guy decided that he couldn't see me riding a Harley for 300 miles..."

Did he actually tell you this?

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 12:10am

Yes, he actually said this to me in an online conversation we had after he acted strangely on date #3 and said he had "thinking to do". This conversation did lead to some other conversations online as well as a couple phone calls. I actually "thought" we were going to try to start our "relationship" over and go a bit more slowly this time. Originally, he came on pretty strong physically, which did overwhelm me a bit, but I was attracted to him and did like him. I wanted to continue seeing him but once he realized that I actually did want a relationship with him, he started having second thoughts, cold feet, confusion, whatever you want to call it...he changed his mind.

I really think he did want a woman who didn't do the bar scene, who wasn't a flake and who would look good riding with him on his Harley. Well, I was willing to ride with him on the bike, but no, I did not look like the "biker chick" he probably fantasized about. However, he told me that I was the easiest person to talk to ever and the nicest he'd ever dated and that he was very attracted to me. Well, I had a lot of the qualities on his list. I'd be almost willing to bet that a year from now he'll still be looking for someone to fit his criteria. I pity whoever ends up dating him. I'm actually glad it didn't drag out any longer. Confused men who have hot/cold personalities aren't very attractive after a while.

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Registered: 11-27-2005
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 11:56am
Yeah, I think this is the good enough for now relationship, while he looks for the real one.
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 4:09pm

hi ....

ok.. i think laidback can be interpreted many ways and I think we all hit it.

laidback as in personality-- goes w/ the flow, not much gets him upset.. kind of just goes w/ the flow doesn't always need a plan .
personality type b..but can also be a type A. go w/ the flow in his personal life just takes one day at time, doesn't look ahead, just easy going..

also hmm laidback can mean enjoys simple things as just staying in not doing much either

but i think when someone online or in dating says they are laidback they are describing their personality not their likes/dislikes

so i would say the majority answer would be = someone that goes w/ the flow, doesn't worry about things, and doesn't easily anger..

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