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| Fri, 01-26-2007 - 12:24am |
So Sean the-lunch-guy IMed me this morning, said he hadn't forgotten we were going to "do something" this weekend and he'd phone me this afternoon. But he didn't. He probably has a good reason. He really has been swamped at work. I'm going to guess that he had to work late today just as he did yesterday and when he got home he was too tired to phone me.
The problem is that he never said which day (much less at what time) on the weekend he was planning for us to get together. He didn't check to see if I was available at that time. I think that it is rude.
Anyway, I am tempted to make plans on my own and when (if?) he calls me tomorrow it will be tough, I didn't hear from you so I went ahead and planned to go shopping (or the movies, or iceskating or whatever) with another friend. I can, at least, make some phonecalls to see if one of my women friends is free.
The problem is I am worried that it will be rude. It's partly my fault for not insisting that he tell me what day and what time and roughly what it as that he was proposing we do. As I said, I am thinking Sean isn't going to be much use as anything but a Platonic friendship. But -- I also think that he has been rude about his "invitation."
Also if he forgets to call me (and he might) then I will be stuck with nothing to do all weekend because I made no plans waiting for him to call.

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I'm not sure this place serves lobster :) But they make a terrific fish with ginger sauce (a nouvelle cuisine thing, part asian, part french) which I love, and their chicken marsala over pasta is also quite good. I may have one of those or try something new.
I'll enjoy the food and probably the company, unless he turns out to be one of those guys that lose all energy as the evening progresses. (One problem with only having lunch with the guy is you can't be sure he isn't one of those "early to bed, early to rise" folks. He claims he isn't but in practice he is always having to go to bed early and rise early. The question is how does it affect his abilty to be good company at dinner.)
Elsa
ROFLMAO ... good way to put it!
One of the things that I hold to Sean's credit is that he has insisted on paying when we've had lunch even though we are practically co-workers and I make a tiny bit more than he does. He really screwed up about phoning, and he has been very slow about actually going out to dinner, but he is not stingy.
So I expect to eat well, at least. :)
Elsa
Is there a place on here where people post thier stories about thier Match.com experiences?
I have a kinda fun one to tell!
As far as I can tell (someone correct me if I'm wrong) THIS is the place where you post your experiences. Just start a new thread for each story (or set of stories) I think.
Thanks for the good wishes.
Elsa
Not that I do it but just wondering?
It's a personal preference. I personally HATE IM for "conversations". I just don't think it's a good form of communication and it can be endless and invasive IMO. It also seems taht a lot of constant IM'ers are the ones that never have any intention of ever meeting. Not sure why that is, but it's kind of a trend.
I actually had a guy recently that annoyed me SO much because of IM. He had emailed me and said that I could add him to IM - blahdy, blah. Well, I emailed back asking him for a little more info about himself. Instead of emailing back, he searched me out on Yahoo and just added me to his IM. I suppose I should have told him up front that I didn't like IM but I wanted to find out whether it was even worth it to tell him that. But he hunted me down on IM and then added me without asking if it was OK first. THAT bugs me. He wound up being a wierdo and I deleted and blocked him on IM.
As for your story, yeah, just start a new thread and share yours!
To add to what Vexer wrote, my experience has been that guys in our age group who are into IM are either not interested in actually *meeting*, or they just want to have cyber sex.
Sheri
There's nothing wrong with IM-ing. The problem is that some guys who IM a lot tend to be a little lazy about other forms of communication.
Communicating with someone in IM is the equivalent of "running into them" and chatting. It does not imply any special effort to communicate and it does not require a lot of continuity of thought. IM-ing also gives a sometimes false sense of intimacy/immediacy.
When a guy has to pick up the phone and call, or take the trouble to phrase out an e-mail and then wait for a reply, he is sticking his neck out a little, making an effort. So it gives more of a message that he is seriously interested as opposed to just finding it convenient to pass the time of day with me.
I continue to IM with Sean, but I'm also "blocking" him lots of times, so that he will notice I'm not available and make an effort to communicate.
Elsa
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