Last minute planning

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Last minute planning
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Fri, 01-26-2007 - 12:24am

So Sean the-lunch-guy IMed me this morning, said he hadn't forgotten we were going to "do something" this weekend and he'd phone me this afternoon. But he didn't. He probably has a good reason. He really has been swamped at work. I'm going to guess that he had to work late today just as he did yesterday and when he got home he was too tired to phone me.

The problem is that he never said which day (much less at what time) on the weekend he was planning for us to get together. He didn't check to see if I was available at that time. I think that it is rude.

Anyway, I am tempted to make plans on my own and when (if?) he calls me tomorrow it will be tough, I didn't hear from you so I went ahead and planned to go shopping (or the movies, or iceskating or whatever) with another friend. I can, at least, make some phonecalls to see if one of my women friends is free.

The problem is I am worried that it will be rude. It's partly my fault for not insisting that he tell me what day and what time and roughly what it as that he was proposing we do. As I said, I am thinking Sean isn't going to be much use as anything but a Platonic friendship. But -- I also think that he has been rude about his "invitation."

Also if he forgets to call me (and he might) then I will be stuck with nothing to do all weekend because I made no plans waiting for him to call.

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 3:53pm

RE: <>

I don't have enough experience to agree/disagree with this generalization, since I've only communicated with one other guy besides Sean on IM. But for what it's worth, Sean was pretty prompt about suggesting a meeting, and was pretty good about wanting to see me again also. And there has been no compusex--we have flirted a little but no sexual talk at all.

I do agree that IM-ing can be a problem. It encourages laziness, IMO, which probably accounts for it being popular with the compusexers and the never-meets.

Elsa

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