Lavalife-- looking for sex, or dates??
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| Wed, 03-30-2005 - 9:12am |
I was checking-out Lavalife. They have three options for meeting: dates, realtionships,and "intimate encounters." So, I did a quick look at guys wanting to date, then relationships, then sex. Many of the guys were on all three!
Made me hesitant. Do I want to look at dating and finding a relationship with guys who are looking for casual sex while dating me?? Perhaps I'm too old-fashioned for modern-day romance. I don't think that people need to be committed right out of the gate... but to be actively seeking sex with some girls, while supposedly seeking a relationship with others... I don't know. It's one thing to date more than one person at the same time... that makes sense. But, this seems like something else, entirely. "I'm gonna date you casually, seek to establish a serious relationship with you, and screw these ones over here." Maybe it's just not my style.
What do you all think of this blanket-approach?
Barb

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I have tried in a year and a half of on-line dating: yahoo, match.com and lavalife and had no success on yahoo, very limited on match and tremendous success on lavalife. Yes, being in all three areas is a bad thing - but not all guys are - in fact, its one of my criteria for weeding out some of the men who contact me - if I find them in the intimate section I don't even bother as I am too old-fashioned for the type of guy who wants casual sex with just about anybody. I also have a female friend who has had a lot of success with lava and a male friend who is now engaged to someone he met off there. Yes, there are some oddballs - but there were oddballs on match too. Maybe lavalife is just better in my area - I'm not sure. Its worth a try - its not expensive (all the other sites were more money) and it is the site with the largest number of men in my area. One thing I like in particular about it is the dating vs relationship section. Men in the dating section are looking just to casually date and maybe if they met the right person they would move to a relationship; men in the relationship section seem very focused on weeding through people to find the right person that they can build a relationship with and aren't into wasting time I find.
Just my opinion of the site,
mom of 2
If you are looking for an intimate encounter, I am sure you will get a lot of hits. I am not intersted in that. I can pick up a guy in a bar, if that is what I wanted, but to each her own. I don't know how I feel about Lava yet. I've been on there less than a week. The only contact I've had was with a total weirdo who IM'd me the MINUTE I signed up and asked me if I was dominant. I IMd back indignantly "This is not the Intimate Encounters" section and I do not have a profile in that section - buh-bye" He IM'd back - I meant in a relationship. I looked at his profile. His first sentence was, "Submissive male seeking a monogamous relationship with a dominant female." UGH! It sounded like he meant in all aspects of life not just S&M games. Double UGH!
The only positive thing I can see with checking out a guy's profile on "intimate encounters" is that you know if he is into things you are not into.
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