At least they want to be friends on FB

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Registered: 10-16-2006
At least they want to be friends on FB
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Sun, 11-01-2009 - 7:37am

So, it's been close to two years that I've been doing OLD again. An attitude that has really helped me get through is to look at meeting men as meeting a new friend, not get all wound up in romantic thoughts right away. This strategy has worked, maybe a little too well.

I met a guy back in July (OLD) and we went out a couple of times, dates were spaced waaaay out. I liked him, but wasn't really feeling it physically for him, and I think he felt the same. About six weeks ago, he sent a friend request to me on Facebook, so I accepted, why not? And that's where it has stayed...he's sent me group email forwards and the like.

I met another guy a year ago. I didn't feel it was really a match, but would have definitely gone out with him to learn more, but he never asked. He emailed me a number of times further discussing something we had talked about when first meeting. I even ran into him three times at artsy things, I was very friendly. So, I see him again this past Friday night (a year after meeting) at an artsy thing, and he made a point of coming over to talk to me. Maybe I'm just lonely and tired of looking, but he was looking good to me (no I wasn't drunk), I'm thinking, "Oh, I'll bet he'll ask me out now." Nope. Saturday morning I get a friend request from him, LOL! (I accepted).

Oh, it's not really a bad thing. Maybe he's got single male friends, right? And I'd much rather be friends with a guy than have it crash and burn and be awkward. Of course, I'd much rather just freakin' meet someone to date.

I know FB can be a real minefield. Has anyone ever friended someone on FB and have it turn into anything more (dating)?

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Thu, 11-05-2009 - 11:46am

Hi! I haven't ever seen it happen, but I

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Registered: 06-09-2008
Thu, 11-05-2009 - 2:02pm
I didnt even have a FB account till after I met DH! LOL But I dont see why you cant use FB as a way to meet ppl. Whatever worsk right?






















































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Registered: 11-29-2006
Fri, 11-13-2009 - 4:26pm
Hi - I tried to email you through your profile but you have that turned off, so could you please email me at relationshipscm@mail.ivillage.com or through my member profile? Thanks and have a great weekend! :)


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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sun, 11-15-2009 - 12:03am

as someone said, i think facebook can be used as a regular dating site. i agree. sometimes you might see people from high school or university whom you had lost touch with and you can reconnect with the person. sometimes you remember them, but they don't remember you and you can write to them and keep up a correspondence and next thing you know, it turns into something.

i would love to hear from someone myself who met someone or reconnected with someone on facebook and it turned into a relationship or marriage. that is one way i am considering meeting guys online-via facebook. i am also trying out other sites of course.

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k2002
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Registered: 07-23-2008
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 10:39am

I actually have dated some people I met through Facebook. One guy I met through a group for freshmen at my college.. another guy saw my profile on match (before I decided to pay for it) and managed to find me on Facebook.. I dated both of them, but nothing really came of it.

I've also had a couple instances where I met someone once (through some random event or outing) and they later found me on Facebook and we started talking. I must be easy to find on there, cuz I swear people can just learn my first name and find me! Jeez..

Plus I still have random guys message me on occasion, saying they stumbled on my profile and would like to talk. Sometimes I message them back, sometimes I don't!

However, these guys have all found me, I have yet to find and initiate contact with anyone myself. But I do agree that it can potentially be a way to meet/date people.

The thing I like about Facebook is that it gives me a good indication that a person is "real"... if they've got 250 friends and people writing on their wall and they have lots of pictures of themselves.. I'm more likely to trust them. Maybe I still shouldn't be very trusting lol, but I think seeing someone's Facebook definitely helps to establish that they're not creepy old men creating fake Match profiles!