lesson

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Registered: 01-31-2004
lesson
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Sat, 03-12-2005 - 8:18pm
Well folks, on Thursday night I posted a message that the “Wednesday makeout/failed to get into my pants” guy haven’t called to set up weekend plans. The feedback I got that it doesn’t mean anything. I think it does. He had hidden his profile! He is in hiding :) From my few month experience on OLD I have learned this – if a guy is really in to you/wants to pursue you – he will call/e-mail almost immediately following your date. Looking back now I see how some guys who were genuinely serious would call/e-mail to thank me for the good time and with offer of the next date. I don’t know why but for some reason if there is an a**hole within 40 miles radius of Cincinnati – I am instantly drawn to him. Will listen to my gut feel from now on.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 8:48pm
No matter what anyone say's - it is my belief that if someone is active with an OLD site - they should be responding promptly (within one day). Anything outside of that window is a flag that you're no higher than #2 in the batting order.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 8:51pm
Another thought - he may have hidden his profile because he is trying to setup a plan B to you -- and does not want you to notice that he is online 23 hours out of the day doing searches. Paying members with hidden profiles can still email quite easily. This is one reason I'm not overeager to do anything with someone who initially has a hidden profile or hides it soon after we start corresponding.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 8:52pm
BINGO
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Registered: 12-10-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 11:58pm

I flew over last month- did you feel a sudden need to jump up into the air? :)

I happen to agree in general, if a guy is into you he'll make some kind of effort to get/set a date. There is one caveat, some guys are shy and might not be very bold or good at doing it... but I think THOSE guys, if they're into you, will at least be communicating with you somehow.

They just might not be asking for a date, but they'll be sending an email, IM, calling, something along those lines.

So if a guy just totally flakes out... yeah, he's probably not into you. It might be for a relatively harmless reason (he might be a bit further along with a different gal) and so he might turn up again later (say it doesn't work out) and THEN be into you, so don't slam the door- just shut it gently. :)