Lessons learned this week...

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Lessons learned this week...
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 1:01am

Two posters' messages affected me this week (and mind you, if I'm not quoting verbatim, excuse me):


First, Sheri posted and basically said how we all are going through our individual challenges here. Whereas one thinks a challenge is not contacting a person, for another it's a challenge to go outside of one's boundaries...


The second

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:31am

Hi there! :)) I agree...None of us have all the answers! Things are very liquid in life....changeable. We need to be ready for good changes and bad at all times! Expect the unexpected. :))

HUGS! ;) Sara

 
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:33am

OMG.

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:56am

Sniff, that was me who said we are all muddling through. I'm so sad you didn't remember! :-( Just kidding!

Anyway, I do have something else to add due to a hard lesson I learned this week. It should be one of those things that's automatic, but I don't think most of us DO think about it automatically. I think that it is SO important to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and say to ourselves "How would I feel if someone said this/did this to me?" Like with SBC's situation with the guy she just wants to be friends with. I thought about it and how I would feel if someone KNEW that they were not in a place that they wanted to be romantic and yet didn't tell me that until after we met. But we can only treat people how we would want to be treated and try to respect people while still being kind.




Edited 12/8/2005 10:17 am ET by vexer_hw

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 10:14am
Dating isn't complicated. There is something fundamentally wrong if it is.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 10:16am
Then there is something fundamentally wrong because dating is VERY complicated.

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 10:52am
Yes, but dating shouldn't be any more complicated than ordering a meal at a restaurant.
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:12am

The actual process of going on dates isn't complicated, the emotions involved with trying and failing to find the right person are complicated.

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:26am

That's exactly what I was going to say...you don't get emotionally attached to your choice of entree, at least not most of the time ;-).

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:37am

>the emotions involved with trying and failing
>to find the right person are complicated

I would say it's difficult to find the right person rather than complicated.

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:38am
I agree, we don't know what we are doing. Nobody does. Because things happen that we don't expect. But it does make it fun. This makes me think of my friend. I always go to her with my relationship problems and she always says "why do you ask me, I dont date". and its true, she doesnt really. But sometimes thats the best advice. she sees things from a perspective i cant. and dating isnt complicated really, it is the emotions. we analyze things to death sometimes. cant be helped really. we all just need to remember to have fun. because dating is fun! that's why we do it!

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