Lessons learned this week...

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Lessons learned this week...
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 1:01am

Two posters' messages affected me this week (and mind you, if I'm not quoting verbatim, excuse me):


First, Sheri posted and basically said how we all are going through our individual challenges here. Whereas one thinks a challenge is not contacting a person, for another it's a challenge to go outside of one's boundaries...


The second

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:27pm

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If that were the case, there would never be a need for a board like this! LOL


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Registered: 06-02-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:32pm

>If that were the case, there would never be
>a need for a board like this! LOL

That was my point...Maybe my "points" are being abscured by food analogies!

:-)

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 2:07pm
Yes, but you still have neglected to answer... what is YOUR definition of dating? Since we know that everyone does not have the same idea, since we know that the article describes someone else's impressions, I'd like for you to let me know what YOU think. ;o)

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 3:39pm

Hi there guys,

Yes, the definition of dating can be different according to individual perspective but its not THAT different. People may have different goals but they aren't so far off from each other that we need to create new definitions for "dating". I personally think that dating is way more complicated then it needs to be. In my own experience, meeting someone, getting to know them, establishing a commitment, and beginning a relationship was always effortless, WHEN the guy I was interested in was actually interested in having all those things with ME. I didn't have to analyze, or manipulate, or worry at all. Things just fell into place. I have found that when it seems like its too much trouble, and im expending way too much effort, things never turn out the way I thought I wanted them to be at the time. For me, complications usually indicate incompatibility.
I basically agree with Hal here, If I put all that effort I wasted on trying to *get my way* and make things happen into making money Id be a billionaire by now.

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 4:32am

cl-bklynchik,

>what is YOUR definition of dating?

Dating is two people with a romantic interest going out socially to find out if they are compatible. Simple.

>Since we know that everyone does not have the same idea

I can't see why this is the case. Not everyone wants marriage or children but other than that, how many different reasons can there be for dating?

>I'd like for you to let me know what YOU think

I can't make it any clearer than I have. I agree with the article and gal moonlight.

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