Let me Find Your Picture

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Let me Find Your Picture
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 9:52am

Okay, been chatting w/a 52 yo guy online and he sent me his phone number initiating phone contact. Last night I called him. When he answered, I told him who I was and his response was "hey, hold on a minute, let me look you up online." I waited a couple of minutes, and he said "gee, I can't find you" and I responded with "well, you sent me your phone number today!" He said "yeah, I know, but I just need to find your profile." After a few more seconds, he said "okay, I found it, so tell me about yourself". I obliged (w/where I'm from, profession, etc.) and he responded "well, tell me more about yourself" to which I replied "what is it you want to know!" From then on the conversation went downhill in my opinion, basically his reply to the same questions were focused on how he like to cuddle and give foot massages, etc. all of which my responses were "well, who doesn't; that really doesn't tell me much about you!" When I did ask him about his profession, or where he was from, he was vague or told me it sounded like a job interview! WTF? I also could hear clicking on the computer, as if he was IMing while talking to me. I ended the conversation and have no desire to call him EVER again.

Regardless, am I making too much of this or does the whole "let me find your picture" at the beginning means he apparently had sent his phone number to tons of women that day! This guy is not the only one; I've had others who have initiated telephone conversations and jumped online when I called to search for my picture. Of course it's obvious but I just felt like he could of played it off better! Just seemed tacky to me!!

Anyway with everything that happened afterwards (his lack of conversation and sexual inuendo) I'm NEXTing him anyway. Actually most of the guys who needed to find my picture before talking; I never talked to again.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 10:22am
Nope, I think your reaction is right on.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 08-22-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 12:01pm
how tacky of him. what a freak. apparently he just gives out his # to a million random women a day. he's desperate. i would have hung up on him. good for you for making it through the convo tactfully. thats so disgusting that he talked more about what he likes to do to feet or whatever than about WHO he is. FREAKO
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 12:09pm
I'm sorry to hear that, that's very rude. I hate it when guys say this feels like a job interview. I'm sorry but with OLD you don't have the luxury of talking about the weather, march madness or the latest terrorist attacks on Iraq, LOL - two strangers in cyberspace trying to find some common ground.
 
 
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Registered: 02-20-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 12:58pm
I do that too, pull up someone's profile the first time we talk on the phone. But I'm pretty subtle about it, the guy never knows. I had a guy do it very obviously once too and it was a turn off, he was interrogating me about my entire profile, ick.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:01pm

I disagree Vex... if he was a player, he'd be good at it! LOL. What a loser, gosh.


Tsteph... this guy is so not worth it!

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:22pm

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I'm glad he DIDN'T "play it off better", for your sake! At least you know up-front that he's not worth your time! As others have said, I think your intuition was right on the mark...good job! :)

    
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:30pm
LOL.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 6:52pm
LOL... exactly girl! hehe
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 7:09pm
I understand that a guy might be chatting with 2-3 girls at the same time but this doesnot mean he should lose track of who is who. If he asked you to call him he should at least recognize the name and the profile attached to that name! I think he was rude and deserves to be nexted!
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Registered: 05-19-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 8:38pm

Okay, this guy is seriously lacking in the "class" department.

It's not even so much that he's staying busy checking other gals out, but for crying out loud! Only a hoser would inquire- "Okay, so which girl are you?".

The guy sounds like he's overwhelmed or something. Is he posturing to make himself look like a wanted man, or is he really just that clueless? An excel spreadsheet might help if he's having that much difficulty keeping things straight :)

As for that first impression he left you with, listen to it. I wouldn't give him any more of my time (but that's just me).