A little confused again!

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Registered: 11-25-2006
A little confused again!
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Fri, 12-25-2009 - 1:21pm

Hi everyone,


Hope everyone had a great Christmas! Well my guy that I met on pof I think has ghosted on me :(

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Sat, 12-26-2009 - 2:40am

It's only been two days, one of which is a major holiday. I wouldn't write him off just yet. Maybe he's having second thoughts, or maybe he just got much sicker, or had to travel to be with family. You'll find out soon enough I guess.

Sometimes people will be meeting more than one person at a time, and if it starts working out with one of them they will disappear on the rest. I had a guy cancel a first meet for that reason, and trust me it doesn't feel any better than them just ending contact.

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Registered: 12-26-2009
Sat, 12-26-2009 - 2:18pm

Don't call him, girlfriend! True, he was sick and it was the holidays, but the ball's still in his court.

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Sat, 12-26-2009 - 2:35pm

Thanks dawny,


I am going to take your advice was already planning the manicure, lol. Thankyou for the b-day wish, take care friend!


Lisa

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Sat, 12-26-2009 - 7:15pm

Ok so I have one more question should I call him on his b-day which is on the 30th or maybe text him on his b-day??? It's really driving me bananas this disappearing thing, lol.


Lisa

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 1:21am

Oh lordy NO!

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Registered: 09-23-2009
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 10:28am

Do not get excited about someone you haven't even met yet. He may have lied about his age or posted a much younger photo of himself, or even posted someone else's photo, and now can't meet you because of his lies. Or, he may have had a date with someone he likes and doesn't want to juggle more than one woman at a time.


When I dated online, the majority of the time, I liked the guy's photo, his personality online and on the phone, but when he met, his teeth were bad, or he just plain didn't look like his photo, and we didn't have chemistry. Until you meet, you are dealing with a fantasy.


It was rarer to find someone with whom we both liked each other alot, and proceeded to more dates.


If he doesn't have the sense to snatch you up before another man does, then give those other men a chance. I say keep on contacting other attrative men on the internet, and eventually you may find a great one who is crazy about you! I finally did, but it took going on dates with about 30 different men over a period of 2 and a half years. I have now been in a happy relationship for 5 months with a wonderful man! Good luck in the new year!

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 12:07pm

Yeah, don't contact him again!

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 12:48pm

Thanks for the advice bag, going to go very slowly and nope I won't call him for his b-day. I'm good.


Lisa

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 3:37pm

I just saw this post on another site and thought it might be of help:


http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-had-a-great-date-why-didnt-they-call-me-back/


(That's a great site with lots of good advice btw)


Sheri

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Registered: 02-25-2009
Tue, 12-29-2009 - 1:17am

Sorry that happened but if he cancelled & you then texted on Xmas & heard nothing, I woudl NOT NOT NOT contact him again. It would seem desperate.


Move on. Sorry!

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