A little nervous about the first reunion
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| Fri, 03-18-2005 - 5:54pm |
I have been emailing to a guy from Canada. I live in another country. This guy is married, have one small daughter. He and I have exchanged email messages for more than 1 yr, I think, but only email messages we have exchanged, we have never chatted simulteneously or even talking on the phone, nothing, just email exchange. In his emails he always tells me about his job, his family, the trips to other places he has made with his family, etc I also email him telling similar things about job, etc only with the difference Im single, no married, no kids. We both are in our 30´s I guess he has found me a very nice, outgoing lady, etc. Last year he emailed me telling me that one of this year´s plan was to go in a cruise to the Caribbean (which he already did with his family) and also another plan was to travel to my country, I dont have anything to do with it, because in general he has heard nice things about my country, touristicly speaking. So he will be traveling to my country next week. Taking advntange of that, when he told me his plan was to visit my country, more than 2 months ago, he told me he would like to meet me for the first time. Well now the time has come and next week he will be coming to my country. But since he told me he was going to come to my country, he told me his brother will also come along, but just the two of them, his wife is not coming in this trip with him, unlike other trips where he and his family have travelled together. His wife has like 5 months pregnant, so for that she is not coming, I hope that is the main reason and not another one. The past weeks we have been exchaning messages speaking about this trip to my country. He wants to meet me so he had set a date for us to meet. Next Sunday 27th, before that, I mean days before that day eventhough he will be in my country, he will taking some sightseeing tours and the only day he could meet me is on Sunday 27th after 4pm. He asked me my phone number so he can call me from his hotel on Sunday. During this emails we have been exchaning the past weeks, he made me think he want me to meet me by himself, I mean he wont take his brother to the meeting or dont plant to ask his brother also to meet me. At first, I thought that was strange, because he is taking this trip with his brother why dont he ask him to join us as well, why will he and I be only by ourselves. Perhaps his brother does not want or does not plan to be a third wheel. But I told this email friend to ask his brother also. I mean he is a married guy, we are going to go to a food court mall to eat, nothing wrong with that, just a reunion to meet us for the first time, but why he wants to be alone with me, that is why I told him to invite his brother as well, he is taking the trip with him also. He told me he will ask his brother if he wants to go with him to the reunion, but the last word will come from the brother if he wants to go or not, is up to him.
This friend also asked me if he picks me up at my house, I mean he does not have a car because by the time we will go to the mall, he already returned the car to the rental place, because that same day, it expired the time of having the rental car, he will come by taxi and pick me up to go to the food court mall.
I have told my parents about this situation, and they told me that it is better the guy will come to my house so they can know who he is, instead of me meeting him right at the mall. I sent him a last email to the guy before he departs from Canada to Costa Rica in the next 2 days, and told him what he will think about that, I just have to wait for his reply.
Would it be better my parent´s idea, to meet him and/or his brother in my house?
Also Im a little bit nervous about this encounter, I have never met in person a person I only have met thru the internet, this will be my first time and with a guy is not even with a girl, which I would have felt more comfortable I guess.
Any ideas in to calm a little bit and that the gathering will turn out smoothly?

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I'm a little late piping in here, but....I'm sorry, starlettos, even if *YOU* think that everything is legit, that doesn't mean this man is.
1) where did you meet him online??
2) did he tell his wife that you were a 'girl' online friend? because, personally, if my husband told me he was chatting with another woman online and visiting her out of the country while he was on vacation...umm...divorce papers would be filed!
3) what is your age and his age??
4) be careful...you really don't know him.
1. Where did I meet him? Well I met him at a cyberfriends, email pals site, one of the hundreds that are in the internet. I mean there was not a love friends or looking for marriage site or sites like those, it was a friend site.
2. Did he tell his wife? I dont know I dont know the wife I dont email with her, he has spoken to me about her obviously, that he has a wife and a daughter and his wife is again pregnant he has even told me about his in laws, we email about many issues, just like regular people do, hobbies, professions, his everyday life, politics, news of his countrym news about my country, worldwide news, his trips, things like that are the only things we have email about, we have never talked about love, sex or anything in that department, we just email each other about simple things. It could be he has told his wife about this trip not now but many months ago. He told me that if his wife would not have been pregnant she would have came with him.
3. We both are over 30´s
4. Of course I dont really know him only by email, but he just wanted to meet me taking advantage that he is currently in my country, so he just wanted to meet the person he has been exchaning emails for a year, that is all. I mean we just going to the mall, catch up, eat, talk, laugh etc. Next day he is going back to Canda, because his flight leaves the next day. Once he is back in Canada, we just continuing email each other.
What is wrong with that? Im a little nervous because this will be my first time ever in my life I met a guy in this circumstances, I mean meeting a guy I first met online then meeting him in person, this will be a new thing for me and Im not used to meet guys in person that I previously met online before or by email, besides all the other emails pals I have are from other countries and they ahve never visited my country, this guy will be the first one.
I have read through this entire thread. I didn't respond up until now because others have pretty much covered anything that would have had to say.
But I do have
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