Living together before marriage, Y or No
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Living together before marriage, Y or No
| Mon, 01-31-2005 - 5:45pm |
Living together before marriage
Saying you’re marriage minded......(I’m sure this has been posted before) thought it would be fun to see both sides.
Yes or No and why?
The Peanut
I say yes because this way you don’t need to rush into the marriage and you can see how they are on a daily basis (even if you take a two week vacation together, spend 5 nights a week) the daily routine can make or break a lifetime decision together. I used to think, no, proposal first but if you move in with the intent of marriage (w/in the year) then I think it’s the way to go. I also heard a statistic that people who lived together before marriage were more likely to get divorced, not sure why?

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>>We weren't engaged. I wanted to get married. He said he did "someday."<<
I have no doubt that the authors of HJNTIY would shout "If he's into you, he would want to marry you NOW." Or at least have a set plan, because a guy who's really into a woman is going to WANT to marry her.
Of course, now you're wiser, eh? :)
I'm going to post without having read the thread yet.
I will never live with anybody again unless there's a ring and a date. I have done that before, and if there's no commitment to long term, it means you 'might or might not' want to stay together. When you break up, it's almost as bad as divorce. And I have a child, and the disruption to her life would be intolerable.
I don't think in this day and age, there's much mystery about whether you can get along with somebody; we can sleep together and spend weekends together and know whether we have conflicts about the toothpaste caps. So the old reason -- 'can we peacefully cohabit' -- disappears as a condition for engagement.
Having said that, if I were to get engaged again, I wouldn't have a problem with moving in together before the wedding.
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