Long Phone Calls

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Long Phone Calls
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Wed, 11-29-2006 - 10:14am

OK, I have renewed my subscription to yahoo for one month only. I have gotten several e-mails and responded to a couple. One guy, who lives about 150 miles from me, exchanged several e-mails and I gave him my phone number. He called last night and talked for about 2 hours. He's a small town cop and seemed to want to tell more cop stories than to find out about me. I have had several calls from guys (over the past couple years of OLD) where it was somewhat hard to get off of the phone from the guy, but then we never ended up meeting anyway. I finally told the guy (twice) that I needed to go to bed. I don't think he was trying to be rude--he seems like a nice enough guy, but I just see no point in these long phone conversations when you basically do not know the person and do not know if you would even hit it off in person. Plus, there are some people (men and women) who do not know how to end a phone conversation.

The other guy who sent me an e-mail has not responded since my last e-mail. Tried to add him to my messenger list but he's never picked up to add me. He lives locally, so I am sort of bummed about that one. Maybe he didn't like the photo I sent. :0

It has been a long time for me to do OLD and I just don't know if I'm up to the same old outcome with men either not responding or if they call, then nothing more happens. We don't ever meet or the distance seems too great. Seems like such a stab in the dark at ever meeting anyone decent.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
In reply to: mitsy2
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 3:19pm
Keep the faith! I know OLD is very frustrating and discouraging. I have learned not to take it seriously, just have some fun and I must admit since I developed that attitude I have been having a real blast. Haven't met any "quality" men yet, well maybe one that does have potential, but we just started dating a few weeks ago, but I know there are good men out there, just like there are good women! It is the best method for me to meet "prospective" dates, at least they appear to be available, single and looking for a woman to date. Of course, that is NOT always the case, some of them are just "testing the waters", others think they know what they want but when you date a few times you realize they are clueless, and of course there are the ones that are just plain NOT available but advertise themselves as available. Oh, let's not forget the serial IMer's, serial e-mailer's and then the serial phone talkers....learning how to determine which ones are worth meeting was the most difficult part for me! Don't take their silence or ghosting personally, they are the ones with problems, not you! Have fun with OLD and you never know when you will meet that one special man, and remember it only takes ONE.
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Registered: 03-17-2006
In reply to: mitsy2
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 8:24pm

I really like your response. :) OLD seems confusing to me... but I'm still giving it a whirl! Your comments have kind eased my mind. Thank you! :)

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