Long standing profile's

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Long standing profile's
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Sat, 11-26-2005 - 8:38pm

I've been working on my profile on match and I finally have a few pictures (just had one before) and I think it's looking pretty good (I had someone helping me and she had great suggestions to make it better).

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Registered: 11-28-2005
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:34pm
Well, Jenny, you have a very valid point about old profiles. If men are just on the prowl, why, (hey guys, 'splain' this) do they say they are looking for marriage? I met my late husband online around 96. I was very lucky until I lost him. After a couple years, I ventured (at the strong urging of friends) back on a couple of (OLD)sites - to just look. Low and behold, there were numerous men there that have been there since 1996! Many had updated their photos and pics. Obviously, these are trolls - they are not really interested in a relationship. They are "players" (a nice word for jerks). One profile in particular is on every single site I've visited and says he wants to find the final love of his life. I don't think so! It's important to discuss the success of past relationships and find out how long someone has been looking online and why they are still looking.
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:48pm

I strongly disagree. Yes, I'm sure some of the people who have been on there for a long time are not really looking for a relationships or are "trolls". But it's possible that some of them are good, sincere guys who just haven't found someone who is right for them yet.

I've been actively dating since my last LTR ended in 1997. I've had a number of short relationships lasting from 2 months to over a year, but all of them have ended for one reason or another (I broke some off, the guy ended some of them, and the reasons are all over the map...no pattern, in other words). Anyone who judged me based on the fact that I've had a profile up on and off for so long would be making a mistake, so I'm not going to judge anyone for that reason alone.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-28-2005
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:53pm

I have no issue with anyone who states they are looking for causal fun dating or just a companion to go to dinner with - some site show that someone is NOT interested in marriage. My issue is with those that say they are looking for marriage - however, your point is well taken!

Diva

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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:57pm

Wouldn't it make more sense that someone who was looking for marriage would take their time so as to find someone who is really right for them?

Sheri

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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 2:29pm
Agree with NWW - I'm sure those guys had relationships here and there - a few 3 months or 6 months or one year and hid them just as we do. To me it makes more sense to hide it then start from scratch if the relationship ends. Again, don't assume they are a player, you have no idea.
 
 

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