looking for work help on a dating site?

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Registered: 03-17-2009
looking for work help on a dating site?
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 1:35pm
I just wanted to get other's opinions on this. I'm a website designer and I'm also doing OLD. In my profiles I tell people that I'm a website designer and I get a lot of responses from guys asking me to help with their websites. They don't act interested in dating me or anything, just trying to get work out of me. I have my own clients and I'm not looking for that kind of thing on a dating website. It's quite frustrating to me. I'm trying to look at OLD as a positive thing, but it seems like guys just want to take advantage of my design knowledge. It's not fair to me. Would it be bad to let it be known how I feel in my dating profiles?
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:35pm

My first thought is I just wouldn't say what you do in your profile, or you could give it a more generic name.

My second thought is maybe these guys are actually interested in you, but they think this is a way to meet you--??

You could always respond by saying, "I don't like to mix business with pleasure," or of course, just don't reply.

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 6:12pm

I would just leave out your occupation...just say Im in design or something like that.

And yes those guys are being schmucks LOL.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 6:35pm

I have similar things happen to me as I am a travel planner.

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Registered: 05-28-2006
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 5:07am

So basically you want to be able to leave "I'm a website designer" in your profile, but not have to be bothered with people that want to hire you?

You must have plenty of work!

Seriously... if the problem is that people are contacting you in a non-dating way because of something you said in your profile, the simplest solution is to... take that out of your profile.

Problem solved.

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 7:05am

This story reminds me a bit of a plaintiff's attorney I met on match.

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Registered: 06-09-2008
Sat, 06-06-2009 - 6:06pm

> You must have plenty of work!

Yeah, that was my reaction, too. Most of us self-employed-service-provider-type people are happy (or, in some cases,