Lost Socks

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Lost Socks
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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 4:52pm
I have a theory about where those men go that you are trying to connect with online. They spin off into the atomosphere - the same place all those lost socks go!What is it with men? I love them - would like to have one of my own (again) - but not just any man. I want that needle in the haystack. That one guy that will adore me. That one with integrity and compassion and a good dose of macho! I know he exists! I'm very flexible - he doesn't have to be gorgeous. My recent experience with OLD has been frustrating and quite humorous! I found my ex-husband on there looking for a 'friend'. I guess the woman he's been living with for the last 5yrs is not cutting it! I found my boss...funny, I always thought he was gay. I found a guy I actually met off line. We hit it off when we met...well, he asked for my number, told me he'd love to see me again, asked if I would be his friend and gave me a big hug and then flew off with those lost socks. I must have misinterpreted all of those signals he gave me! I met a guy online and he asked for my number but never called - even after he told me the actual time he would call! Another charming gent told me I reminded him of an 'older' version of a woman he was in love with 10 yrs ago, and we later found out she and I have the same name..I sent him off with the socks! The one guy I actually met and really wanted to get to know..the one who asked WHEN he can see me again has not called since! I see a lot of women on here trying to contact those guys in sock-land and I just want to say that NO GUY is worth chasing. If he's into you...he will call. So I pack up my dignity..I don't send that nasty email I wrote -I don't call. I don't want to be rejected over and over again. So,I keep the faith and move on..but I will be taking a break from OLD. Now where did that sock dissappear to?? Can anyone relate?
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Registered: 05-01-2006
In reply to: mtns2sea
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 7:53pm

I can definitely relate. And I love your sock analogy! That cracked me up and I'm going to think about it the next time a guy gets "lost" like those socks as it helps to lighten up the situation and will prevent me from taking it all too seriously. Unfortunately so many women take it personally when men disappear without explanation. I used to take it very personally but over time I've learned that there are a million different reasons why a guy might not respond back to my e-mail/call me and him not liking something about me is only 1 out of a million. I try to believe that he's probably doing me a favor by disappearing early on rather than down the line after feelings have developed. I definitely think taking a break from OLD can help - when you're ready to dive back in, you feel rejuvenated and more positive. Updating your pictures also helps. If you update your primary pic, on some websites this will qualify you as "new" and when members run their search on who's new, you will appear, thus getting you more exposure which is always a good thing.

Meredith