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Lucky if we meet
| Thu, 12-14-2006 - 7:13am |
I answered an ad on craigslist because this guy described himself almost exactly the way I would describe myself personality wise and also as far as interests go. We exchanged pictures and wrote some more, finding out we still have more in common. We even live about 5-10 minutes from each other. In his most recent email he writes a lot about himself and still, more in common, and he asks if I want to instant message. I'm not the instant messenger type so I'm going to ask if he wants to speak on the phone instead. The thing that gets me though is that he says his schdule is different every day and we'd be lucky to meet. Why then are you posting on craigslist looking for a girlfriend, and that's what he says he's looking for in his ad. If he's lucky to meet up with someone who lives so close by him, what hope is there for him to meet anyone for that matter? I know he goes out and doesn't work 24/7 even if his schedule is irregular so why say something like that if you're trying to interest a woman?

I can't answer why he would have posted an ad if he wasn't really looking for someone to spend time with, but I can tell you this... for whatever reason, he's setting the stage for not being too available for you. If you are looking for something more, then I would say next to this guy and find a man who wants to spend time getting to know a woman such as yourself. :o)
It's been more than a year ago that I corresponded via instant message, e-mail and phone with a guy who eventually told me that he "froze up" upon meeting anyone new. This was said to me after I mentioned us meeting at some point. I felt like I had wasted quite a lot of time with this guy and was sort of angry at his comment. We talked maybe once or twice after that, but I basically wrote him off after that. Then a few months back, I get an offline message from him. It was so long since we'd corresponded, that I had to really think who this guy was. After figuring it out, I told him that yeah, I remembered him and that he was the guy who had a profile online but didn't want to meet anyone. I also mentioned that after not hearing from him for months, that I didn't give it much more thought. Maybe that sounded a bit snotty to say, but I thought what an idiot he was.
Then just last week, I got another offline one liner from him. I deleted it and did not respond. I honestly don't know why men who are not serious about meeting someone bother with any of the online process of corresponding or getting to know someone if they don't have the gumption to meet them. The guy I dealt with was divorced and we talked enough (he was raising 2 sons) that I felt pretty sure he was telling the truth about not being married, but I think there are a lot of men who are in relationships or married who play this online game with a lot of women. I consider it a total waste of time.
I have seen several posts on the message boards about men really living in the moment more than women. Probably when he posted the ad he did want a girlfriend, but now that reality has set in, he is just not willing to change his routine to reach out and actually make an effort. Too bad though, sounds like you had a lot in common. Good luck with your search!
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