Major difference putting pic in profile!

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Major difference putting pic in profile!
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 8:38am

Now that my divorce was finalized (yippee!!!), i got brave & put my pics into my Match Profile. In the past, i had maybe 4 views a day, now? like 50+.

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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 8:16pm
I'm afraid to post my picture on my profile on match.com. I did that and my ex-husband found it and was going to show my daughter. I am not ready for my daughter to know I am dating yet....
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 1:49am

I wonder why you don't want to have your daughter know you are dating when you are? Is it a tradeoff on being upfront with your children versus "protecting" them?

Mark

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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 11:38am
Her father's life is pretty unstable. I just want her to get through her first semester before letting her know I am dating.
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 1:00pm

As has been discussed here before, looks DO matter, esp. for men. When I do searches on Match or other sites, I only look at profiles with photos (I post my photo on mine).

Interesting how you put it for do not characterize me passing on a profile without a photo as "blowing off." It sounds like a personal rejection the way you state that...

When I search for a mate online, I rather not be narrow in my search but be open about the type of woman I want to at least start a conversation with. I believe I know only so much from the photo and profile.

Mark

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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 1:15pm
I no longer pay attention to profiles w/out photos. I think that a guy who can't put up his picture is either not sufficiently interested in the process or has some reason to hide his picture. It's not worth my bother. A guy doesnt have to be attractive, but if he has a picture at least he's tried to make himself visible.
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:16pm

Hi Mark - no, i see how it sounded that way, but its not what i really meant. I shouldnt have used that term. I just meant they were guys whom I had sent an email to (as an introduction, & telling them that I didnt have a pic in my profile but would be happy to send one if they were interested), & they either never answered, or declined or whatever. Thats what i meant by blowing off.


& yes, whether its wrong or right, looks do matter to most. I tend to side with it being ok b/c after all, you dont really want to put the feelers out there for someone & then find you arent attracted in the least. I would feel badly anyway. Thats why i too rarely contact anyone who i dont know what they look like.

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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:18pm
Thats what i figured people may be thinking - how *I* think - either you are hiding something, what you look like, maybe who you are ... but then again, there are a lot of people who really, maybe b/c of carreers (cops, teachers) who wont want their pic up there for trhe world to see.
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:19pm
(((hugs))) sounds like you have an X like mine. Immature, manipulative & selfish.
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 12:28am

How old is your daughter? I am confused how her father's stability affect her acceptance of you dating. Wouldn't be hard to hide your dating? Since it would be hard for her to accept you dating, would you consider waiting that semester before you date?

Mark

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 7:29am
My daughter will be 10 in August. I want to start testing the waters, and I want to start having fun.