This makes no sense

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Registered: 03-28-2003
This makes no sense
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 11:00am
Now, I know for sure that they are a couple since I got to talk to him. I appreciate all of yu guys respnoding , and I know that it sounded like I wasn't gonna go out and have fun and that Iwas probaly gona wait around for him. Which is not the case. I plan on going out and having fun, I'm not gonna wait around for him. But there are some things that he says and does that make no sense. He still calls me baby, and recently he keeps telling me he loves me. Which he use to do it's just recently that he tells me more. He's normally a quick one to say that a girl he is dating is perfect, but after dating her a week i asked him and he said that he didn't consider her perfect. I was really surprised when he told me that, esp. after he told that he slept with her. It just didn't sound like him. I know that he was really lonley, lol and really horny. It's jsut confusing!!!!


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Registered: 04-16-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 11:53am
Now I am confused. Look, if you moving on and getting on with things, then why are questioning what he is saying to you now? Men are confusing!! There is not one man in this world, that isnt. You have to make a decision here, hon. Do you think this man is worth worrying over? Is he the kind of man you want to be with or invest time in? I know it hard to make that decision, but think about it. He sleeps with a girl, just cause he is lonely. Emotionally stable??? Is he? I would keep my distance if I were you. It sounds like he may be trying to have his cake and eat it to. There you are, waiting for him to cry on your shoulder. Do not be so available for him, unless you just really want to be. If you care about this man, then by all means play the game with him. If I were you, I would ask him not to tell me he loves me, or call me baby unless he planned on backing those words up with a relationship. I just hate to see you waste your time on someone who is not really serious about being with you romantically. It is the same even in friendship. Dont give all you have to someone who is not giving you anything back. Just watch out, sweetie. I hate to see someone use you.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 12:34pm
I agree and I have never heard of any man who has honorable intentions towards a woman who would ever mention sex with someone else except in the vaguest terms (i.e. just alluding to the fact that he has had sex before, and said in a respectful way).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 12:41pm
*sigh* Guys are just too much sometimes...I seriously just don't get them. Go out and have yourself a great time definately deserve it!!




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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-30-2003 - 11:06am
A guy who tells you about his sexploits doens't have any respect for your feelings, in my book anyway. He is to be treated with sarcastic humour, taught his place, and regarded as a bit of a bozo. A guy who loves you (but is too shy and reserved to come out and say so) won't tell you he slept with a girl cause he was lonely or horny, or that she wasn't so great! what is that if not a line? or an insult to that poor girl?

i wonder how you can entertain feelings for this dude! unless you are into the sadomasochistict trip?? nooooooooooo....

i can chat with a guy for ages, provided he talks exclusively abotu his love for me, or not about women at all (like abotu mutual interests, travel, etc.) there's no middle road, really. And likewise, if a guy is willing to listen about my dates and love life: he doesn't love me, he's either a gay pal or a younger brother type.