making friends on OLD part 2

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2005
making friends on OLD part 2
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Wed, 12-07-2005 - 11:33pm

Hi,

So that I don't become forever associated as the girl who dated the man who lied about his age (I really must stop referencing him. It will start now!), I just wanted to share the message I received from the guy I'd ghosted on. He had contacted me and we exchanged a few emails before I dropped off the planet. I felt badly, so replied a month later to apologize and wish him well thinking he wouldn't respond, but maybe take some consolation in teh fact that I felt bad. He replied asking if I'd like to meet for coffee, and after re-reading his profile and assessing where I am with respect to dating, I told him I'm only interested in friendship for the time being, and if that's okay, then yes, I'd like to meet for coffee. I did this thinking I'd probably never hear from him again, but he replied. I'll paste it below:

"Thanks for the explanation, though it wasn't necessary. I was disappointed
when you disappeared, but I didn't dwell on it. That's just how things go
sometimes and all we can do is put it behind us and continue on. I understand your feelings and am perfectly fine just meeting for a friendly chat - something I don't do enough of even with friends. That's more my speed anyway."

So that's encouraging, right? Or do you think he's just saying what he knows I want to hear? All I want right now is to surround myself with nice people with no ulterior agenda. It's so much work reading signals, keeping my guard up, second-guessing myself, analyzing behavior, and trying to have "talks." I hope for better relationships and easier interactions with people in 2006.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 12:06am

I like his response - go and have fun. Don't read into it - he's just a new friend possibly so get out there and network!!!

SP

 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:32am
Hey, good luck! Friends is good! :))
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:42am
If you are meeting as friends then dispense with the "men need to chase women" process and invite him out for coffee. That was your objective, right?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:00am

There is no chase going on here. Later in the message he said he'd still like to have coffee so I will write him back and try to schedule something in the next few days.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:06am
I say go for it!

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