Making lemonades from lemons
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| Sun, 01-29-2006 - 1:38pm |
Hi all, I am back from my trip to the Bahamas with my mom...it was really great to see some sun for a few days and of course spend time with my mom! The resort we stayed at was beautiful (I had a gift certificate from my travel biz, I never would have been able to afford it otherwise!)...we saw Michael Jordan playing golf (he's having his annual tournament there this weekend) and David Schwimmer was checking in as I was leaving.
So, I'd been emailing with a guy from CL before I left and we talked on the phone yesterday and agreed to meet for gelato at 5 PM. He doesn't show or answer his cell phone. I'm like, oh, man, another flaky guy, I can't take it!!! But when I got home, I was feeling like, I'm not going to let this guy ruin my evening and I don't want to sit home alone. So I posted an ad on CL asking if anyone wanted to meet me last night at a new restaurant/jazz club. I got a handful of responses and ended up meeting one of them. He's really cool, and funny...I haven't laughed so much in a while. He's a musician and he competes in masters level track meets, so he's in really good shape, which was a bit intimidating for me, since I'm NOT, but he didn't seem to mind (and I did send him a pic beforehand). We ended up staying out until 2:30 AM...I haven't been out that late in a LONG time! He was a total gentleman, too...asked if he could kiss me when he walked me to my car, and said he definitely wanted to see me again. We'll see...he may not end up calling, but I had a good feeling about it so I'm reasonably optimistic that he will. Regardless of what happens, I'm glad I took a chance and did something out of my usual comfort zone, and didn't let the other guy not showing up ruin my evening.
BTW, the guy who didn't show up called and emailed me about a million times apologizing up the ying yang...he claims he fell asleep and didn't wake up until after 6 PM. He does work long overnight shifts and had worked one Friday night so I may give him the benefit of the doubt...although I'm really tired of doing so.
I'm also supposed to meet a guy from mydate for lunch today...he's supposed to call me late morning to confirm so we'll see. It's sad that I expect people to flake but that's consistent with my overall experience. Ok, he just called while I was writing this so we are on for lunch, yea.
Oh, and an update on the guy who from NYE who talks about himself all the time...we last spoke on Jan 9 (a Monday)...he was supposed to call me on Wednesday to make plans to get together again, and he didn't call. I didn't hear from him until Jan 21 (while I was away) and he didn't even apologize for not calling for 12 days. I haven't responded although he's left a couple messages and sent a couple emails...I'm just so disgusted by his cluelessness. He thinks he can just pop in and out of my life...jerk (he's the one who disappeared after dating for a couple months last spring, so he was definitely on probation). I suppose I will write him back at some point and explain why I am not interested in continuing to see him but the arrogance just SLAYS me.
Sheri

It sounds like things are going well for you. Good luck with the musician, if it doesn't work out with him, send him over to me..
I'm always at a quandry with these guys that can't do what the say they are going to do. Do you ghost and just get away from them or do you write them a letter explaining their flakeyness just isn't for you?
Ghosting is so easy but they can always think that you died rather than understanding that you think they are a loser.
I agree with your last point...it probably won't do any good, but there's a part of me that wants to take him down a peg and make him understand that his behavior just didn't cut it with me.
Well, I seem to be on a roll...the guy I just met with for lunch is also very nice- looking, fun, interesting...he's an Army intelligence officer, speaks several languages, has lived all over the world, and he wants to go out again also (or so he says). Of course, I've been in this position before (had several seemingly cool guys seem to be interested at one time) but they've all fizzled out in the past, so I know not to get my hopes up...but it's nice to at least meet some non-boring guys!
Sheri
Hooray for Sheri. Love the lemonade thing -- CL can be surprising, and I'm thinking I might post another ad there. Good for you for going outside your comfort zone. Next time you're not sure whether you should, remember that it turned out well!!!
I was supposed to have a meet Sunday but he called to postpone. "I wasn't thinking, I'm having family over at 1 for my daughter's birthday, probably can't get there by 3." Ok, whatever. I won't hold my breath...
Luckily I had a great night Saturday with my MuchYoungerMan. I met him and his best friend at our local bar, had a great time, went back to his place, friend left, I stayed (and we had what might have been the best sex of my life. TMI for this board, I know, but I just had to tell somebody.) I was pleased and flattered that he wanted me to meet his friend, and he was reasonably affectionate toward me in the friend's presence.
I would have stayed over but today I held an engagement brunch for one of my friends who met her fiance on Yahoo personals!
Glad you are continuing to have fun with the much younger man ;-)! I thought of you, actually, when I got a response from a 28 year old Sat night. I'd already agreed to meet A by the time I got his email plus that's really too young for me so I turned him down.
Too bad the other guy cancelled...I know you were looking forward to that meet. I hope he will reschedule.
I got an email late yesterday afternoon from A saying he'd enjoyed meeting me and hopes to see me again soon, but he didn't call even though I emailed back and let him know what time I'd be home from rehearsal last night if he wanted to call. I'm trying not to be anxious for him to call but it's hard...I really want to know when I'm going to see him again! Argh ;-)!
Sheri
DOUBLE ARGH on your behalf! I hate that so much. It's my personality. I can't abide uncertainty, which is why I'm so bad at dating!
Glad to hear you thought of me -- hey, what's the worst thing that could happen if you meet a MYM? The worst thing that happens for me is that after I've had a really good time with him I obsess about when I can see him again because it was so good (see ARGH above!) But he stopped over yesterday afternoon. I had sent him a text message and he called me to reply. Said, "where are you in your house? look out your window." I do love a guy who pops over on a whim...and sends sexy text messages...I have it all except the 'boyfriend' part.
The guy who cancelled apparently actually does want to meet me. Against all the advice I knew I would get here if I asked, I emailed him briefly this morning and said I was still up for it. I got a very nice reply with some specifics about when he'd be able to meet next weekend. He even said he was sorry to have cancelled and that he thinks he forgot about the family thing because of the 'anticipation' of meeting me.
All together now: "We will see."
Hope you hear from A.!!!!!