Male frustrated with OLD
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|Mon, 06-08-2009 - 11:19pm|
I'm a member of the other sex who is frustrated with OLD and hoping to get some constructive feedback. Here's the basics: I'm in my mid 30s, have a graduate degree, am employed, have above average looks and build and am located about 25 miles from a major metropolitan area (Chicago). I've never been married and have no kids. I neither misrepresent myself online, nor do I stalk women who don't reply to me. I am on match.com to look for a relationship and not a quick fling.
However, I have become frustrated, and indeed at times somewhat embittered, by my experience with OLD. In the last few weeks I have sent out about 30 emails and haven't gotten a single response. I read every profile before sending out an email, and always mentions items mentioned in the profile as well as what I think are common interests. I don't know if the women on this message board ever initiate communication with men on OLD sites, but I can tell you that from my perspective, it is frustrating to time and time again read a profile, become interested in a women, put effort into writing an interesting email, and then get no response.
I send emails primarily to women in their late 20s and early 30s in Chicago, and my "type" are women who are intelligent, cosmopolitan, well-read and "cute". Maybe I am punching above my weight, and maybe not being in Chicago itself is a factor, but my overwhelming sense is that women in the category get emails every day from men, and as a result have become extremely picky. From my perspective, OLD has been *far* more beneficial to women, has perhaps empowered them too much, and I imagine that in a lot of instances (perhaps I'm wrong) men are probably rejected for arbitrary and whimsical reasons.
I certainly don't think that men should hold all the cards when it comes to courtship. But from my admittedly narrow perspective, it just seems as if OLD is far more beneficial to women, and indeed a waste of time for many men.