mama's boy or noble hero
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|Wed, 10-15-2003 - 2:49pm|
so I got repsonses from different guys and weeded through them with a fine tooth comb which ened up with me weeding most of them right into the cyber trash can..with the exception of one guy.
I figured some of my weeding had more to do with me being chicken about that "first date" sort of thing than just their being not my type so I made arrangements to meet this one. I wanted to do it for me more than anything, to help me get past my fears of meeting new people.
We had a good time, but when it came to the "tell me about where you live" he backpeddled some and then told me he "lives with his mother". Ok, this guy is almost 49 and his reasoning is, is that she is feeble and needs help, and that when he got a divorce over 13 years ago his child support payments made living back at home more of a desirable option. He said he has the full basement with all the cooking facilities and he rarely interacts with her except to shop for her and drive her to places she needs to go. In a word, he is the only family member that has stepped in to help her in her old age.
I thought I could jive with that, but then when I told him that I usually just go by my nickname (Tiger) rather than my full name, he mentioned how she might not like that or he said something about her not accepting that...I retorted with "Kurt, you are HOW OLD???" and "Maybe it's time to cut those apron strings".
I think I have my answer on this, cuz, no matter how noble it might be to live with your elderly parents, I think as long as he has been there (the 13 years) that's gotta be, what is the word, a symbiotic relationship? Or a moma's boy complex??
Am I trackin' here? Or is there another side that I might be missing and perhaps I'm being to hasty of a judge?
Thanks in advance!