Man met online...reveals sad secret
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Man met online...reveals sad secret
| Thu, 01-12-2006 - 6:22pm |
I met a guy I had a blast with through Myspace.com, we had gone to the same high school and even had been presented in the past but never really spoke in High School. We exchanged numbers on the internet and decided to go out together. I felt a bit confortable because we remembered one another from three years ago in High School. We clicked so well and had so much in common that it seemed unbeliveable almost. He was incredibly nice, almost too nice and complamented me at every chance. It was a great weekend with him. We where then chatting one night and he reveals that his friend was calling him on the other line and tells me that he'd call me back. I reply, "ok thats fine". He calls me back and tells me, "God! It's my friend again...she's cutting herself again and she got mad because I wouldn't pick up the phone." I reply, "Umm..cutting herself?". He replies "Yeah, she cuts herself when ever she feels sad and she's mad because I didn't pick up my phone." I reply "Is this your ex girlfriend?" And he replies, "Yeah, she is...we're just friends and she got mad because she saw that on myspace she had seen that I called you my sexy girl and all this stuff" And I reply, "If she's still getting mad it's because their is still something going on most likely." He then replies, "No, we broke up a year ago! I don't like her, she only calls me because when she feels like cutting herself, I talk her to calm down and stop. I used to do it too." I then get really scared, and reply "You used to do it??! Why?" He then replies, "I don't know, I just did, I used to get really sad, and I would cut myself because I was so depressed" I replied, "What's the last time you did it?" He then replies, "Like 6 months ago...I could show you the scars if you want" and then I reply, "6 months? I think you might need help for this." he replies, "My family helped me to stop." I guess we went on about his problems and issues with his alcoholic and abusive father and he told me he had scars he could even show me. I told him that if his ex girlfriend is still getting jealous and stuff, and your getting attached so soon to me that you might need time to heal because I don't want to be a rebound. It's like your using me to get over her. He then denies it and tells me that he's a caring person and he has friends who call him and lean on him in these issues. I go aroung the bush and state that I rather not be a part of this problem with his ex and him still talking about issues and stuff and it's best we let "this go". He then, tells me "No! Why?!! Don't let me go! I don't like her anymore, she just bugs and she's bi sexual and has soo many issues, I don't want a girlfriend like that?!" I stated, "Well, you did for three years and still are worrying about her issues." After a couple minutes of talking about the same problem of cutting himself in the past for years and having an ex girlfriend of three years do the same...I stated that it was done with and that i'd be best to let all this go. He told me jokingly, "Now your going to leave too? Don't leave, now I'm going to cut myself because your leaving." I reply, "Ok, now your talking out of your ass" and he replies, "My ass can't talk that would be grosse" I guess by this point it was so unattractive to me that I decided to tell him that i'd be best to be friends and that he most likely needed time to heal from a broken heart. I was so creeped out by what he had told me that I felt like he had issues that needed to be resolved before he decided to go out and date me. I felt really bad inside as well because I emailed him telling him that I had lost attraction and that i'd be best he received proffesional help although he doesn't do it anymore. I then said that I am not the girl to help him and that I think it would be a good idea to take care of himself and stop trying to help other's with the same problem when he's doing it too. I felt very bad for this person, but I think he was getting too attached to me too quickly and I guess I was also scared that perhaps if he hurts himself he may hurt me too. I am not sure if I did the correct thing because I feel a bit bad for being "cold" towards him. Tell me if I did the correct thing? Thanx :)
Kinda confused
Kinda confused

You're absolutely right. This man needs professional help and lots of it. You aren't Freud and can't help this guy. Of course, once he sees that email he'll go searching for his knives but you can't control that.
Time to put that profile back up and find a new guy. Sheesh, you dodged a bullet on that one.
I think you definitely did the right thing.