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A match for everyone?
| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 5:11pm |
Some friends and I have been discussing our single status, and that of people who seem to be willing to settle just so they aren't alone, or people who are just poison, yet they have an SO, etc.
I'm wondering - does everyone have a "meant to be"? Meaning, that one match out there that's meant for you, and when you are meant to be, you will meet and the timing and everything will be right.
I know there are wonderful examples of "yes", like our own dear gigi and his wife, but is it for EVERYONE?
I think the frustration our particular group is having is that we are all attractive, smart, together people, yet can't seem to meet decent people to date. Yes, we see the train wrecks who manage to find love.


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What's the difference?
What if "The One" for you is someone who would never use OLD? I think dating is a numbers game but you need to be selective about where your numbers come from.
Or what if "The One" for me (if there was such a thing) would never grocery shop in my neighborhood?
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I don't believe that there's only one person that I should be looking for....that is, "Person X" I think that there are several possible matches for everyone.
>So why close off one or another option when I
>have no idea when or where I'll meet the right guy?
Do you ever think that the right guy for you is not the type of guy who would use OLD?
Do you ever think that the right guy for you is not the type of guy who would use OLD?
Do you think
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*Very heavy sigh*.....why so down on OLD?? We're all just out there making the most of every opportunity!
And Stacey, I'm with you...I see every time I leave the house as a possibility.
BTW, I bet you look great with or without makeup!
Okay, enough of this back and forth. You've tried OLD for a short period of time and seem so negative about it!
Don't you think if there were a surefire way to meet "the One" we would already know about it??
So Hal, what's the solution?? What do you plan on doing or going about finding someone for you?? I'm really curious since you refuse to do OLD and IRL you are shy about approaching women. Awaiting your reply.....
After reading all these posts, I don't know that there IS a best place to meet people. A year ago, I wouldn't have even considered an online dating site. However, I HAVE had more dates within the last 6 months than I have within the last 6 yrs. using OLD. Not saying I have met Mr. Wonderful--yet. For myself, I have to say living in a fairly rural area has not helped my chances of meeting someone locally. I've had several blind dates which were set up by well-meaning friends. They were all pretty pointless, but just making yourself go out and be social helps in the whole dating process..at least it has for me. I am much less nervous now about meeting someone or going out than I was a year ago. Maybe that much is good plus I do think that at least meeting more and more men helps your chances for meeting the right guy. My problem in the past has been putting all my eggs in one basket rather than being willing to meet or go out with several guys within a short time period. Usually, I don't have that opportunity often, but I'm trying not to be so quick to judge about some prospects while realizing what I can and cannot tolerate in someone else.
I don't think there is a quick fix for our situations. However, I find myself questioning why God allows certain people to find their partner in life and the rest of us are still single, but I also question why so many stay in loveless &/or abusive relationships as well. Unfortunately, nothing is ideal in life.
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