A match for everyone?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
A match for everyone?
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Tue, 10-11-2005 - 5:11pm

Some friends and I have been discussing our single status, and that of people who seem to be willing to settle just so they aren't alone, or people who are just poison, yet they have an SO, etc.

I'm wondering - does everyone have a "meant to be"? Meaning, that one match out there that's meant for you, and when you are meant to be, you will meet and the timing and everything will be right.

I know there are wonderful examples of "yes", like our own dear gigi and his wife, but is it for EVERYONE?

I think the frustration our particular group is having is that we are all attractive, smart, together people, yet can't seem to meet decent people to date. Yes, we see the train wrecks who manage to find love.


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Registered: 10-08-2005
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 8:27pm

I've heard that when you're looking for a job, you should go on lots of practice interviews. How different are these first dates?? I see them as an excellent way to get out there, get over any shyness I have lingering, allow myself to make mistakes and learn from them.

Please understand that I would not be so cold as to go out on a date simply for practice...I truly only date the ones i'm interested in, & hopeful that it will lead to something. Not that I've had many chances lately!!

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 9:08pm

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You're 100% correct. There is not a "best" place, just a way to open more doors. Whether it be through OLD, joining new clubs, asking friends... the more you surround yourself with opportunity, the better chances you have of finding someone. OLD is just a conduit to another connection, nothing more, nothing less.


No one here can say we will or won't meet our perfect match via OLD, but hey--what will we really lose if we try? ;o)


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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 9:29pm

What do you think of these ideas:

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=4525&menuid=6

I once read volunteer work was a way to meet guys, but most of the volunteers were women. Perhaps we all read the same article?

OLD is just one of many ways to "get out there", which is what my goal was last year. My other goal is to be more open to conversation with complete strangers that I meet.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:03pm

I think the more guy-oriented things are good but the book clubs and volunteer work? Probably more females, as you said...


One thing that my cousin and I do is come up with challenges for each other. For example, one day she challenged me to smile at 20 people on the train. I challenged her to find a person she does not like and find something positive about him/her. Actually, I just got a brainstorm while writing this... LOL


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:12pm

I volunteer, but it's for a birth center.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:15pm
Do you think you can meet guys at a makeup counter though? That one has me lost... LOL

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 11:13pm

Uh, I live in one of North America's Gay Capital. I can't get NEAR the counter in my 'hood!

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 5:26am
There is a chance a sister or mother of Mr. Right might need make up.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 9:16am
Awww, thanks, lhisaboe!

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 9:53am

"There is a chance a sister or mother of Mr. Right might need make up."


That is so true!!!

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