match - see whos viewed your profile
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| Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:12pm |
you all try this yet? You like or not? I think if I was still on match,i'd like that feature. But also, for me, i'd be careful who I clicked on. Now whomever you are dating can see how many times you view his profile to see how much hes been online! ack. Kind of invasive to the privacy.
still on my track to real life date. although ive been too busy to really date or even look. i decided to take a break after the last guy - ended about a month ago... and have met a few guys in real life thru friends or just out - but not really interested in anyone.. honestly, since being off of the match and YP sites out there, ive been so much happier. Kind of know that wasn't the arena for me after feeling like the last two months since ive been off of it.
i hope everyone is doing well =)

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Creepy!
I find this new feature a curiosity mostly.
Yes, in some respects it can be interesting to see "who is viewing your profile" and initially I thought it would be great from like a safety standpoint (blocking profiles etc.) However, what I've since found out, for myself that is, is that upon my most recent check of who has been viewing me, it turns out after doing a little number counting, that approximately 80% of the men that are viewing my profile are men in their mid to latter fifties and theres even been some guys in there sixties looking at my profile. YUCK ! and GROSS ! Wheres' that emesis pan, I think I'm going to be sick? :O LOL
I can't even begin to tell you what an absolute 'turn-off' that is!!!!
I've also noticed that there is a major disparity between the daily number of profile views that my profile receives versus who is actually showing up on my who has viewed me screen. The numbers clearly do not add up properly. Seems to me that theres alot of profile clicking going on and these people ARE NOT SHOWING UP on my whose viewed me screen ...???..... What's up with that ?
Maybe LG has an explanation for this one, being that I perceive him to be the absolute Guru of 'old' .....
And yes Surfergirl, I suspect that just like you, once my old membership expires, I hope to recapture my positive level of self-esteem that I initally had, prior to starting 'old' activities this past February. Its rather disheartening to think that as an attractive and very physically fit woman who has just entered her forties and has a solid career and educational background, that the only attention my profile receives is from men that are clearly way too, too old for my personal preferences. LM
I don't like that feature. I don't know how other guys do their searching but for me... it's not like I sit down, scan Match and then fire off the intro emails.
Sometimes I like to view a profile over the course of a day or several days. Let her 'sink' in, if you will.
Sometimes I find the right gal but personal time conflicts postpone me from sending an intro email.
There are a host of 'non-creepy' completely-normal reasons why a guy may view a gal's profile yet delay in sending an intro email.
Now, with this 'feature' we face the gal's reaction to be "oh... it's him... the guy who viewed me 2 weeks ago. I guess I'm his 8th choice.'
*DELETE*
People who won't show up as having viewed -- but WILL count as clicks:
a) Anytime YOU view your profile
b) People with hidden profiles
c) People who are not logged into an account (free or paid)
d) I have been unable to determine 100% if your profile shows up only when you click the picture from a "lineup" or whether it also shows when you are going directly to the picture -- as in typing the ID into the search box.
I'm fairly certain on ABC though.
>>Now, with this 'feature' we face the gal's reaction to be "oh... it's him... the guy who viewed me 2 weeks ago. I guess I'm his 8th choice.'<<
That was not the case for me when I was doing OLD on American Singles. I figured it WAS just a case of making up his mind, etc. What I had issues with was the guys that kept coming back again and again after we were clearly not going anywhere.
One guy blew me off with a really nasty email after I caught him "shotgunning" and called him on it. I had blocked emails from him, but for about a month he kept viewing my profile...sometimes several times a day. Now that's creepy!!!
Those were good points, Luv.
When I was on Matchmaker OLD there were two gals that I had saved in my favorites list. In both cases they gave me a No Thanks reply. I kept them saved mostly out of curiosity to see if they dropped off or if they made the 'Announcement' that they were seeing someone and advised potential suitors not to write (some women actually do this). I only viewed them when I was cleaning-out or adding-to my favorites list... not as a dedicated action to check on them.
I'm guess I'm just trying to add some reasonable explanations to why some guys do things. From my perspective I see some guy just surfing profiles of women that he's either contacted before or plans to contact... no big deal; seems like the perception of the Ladies is he's some creepy worm in a dark room drooling on his keyboard.
Well, I don't like the "who's viewed" thing. But, it's only for one and a half reasons. I have an ex whom I met on another service a few years ago. Wondering what he was doing and if he was single, I recently did a search on Match. After a couple of hours I found him (using the same profile that he did 3 years ago when we met elsewhere). We do and always have lived in two separate cities - in different parts of the country. Now, he will see some woman from my city browsing his profile, and know it's me!! It's a matter of sheer deduction (not to mention this "woman" has the same features as I do!) Now, I am busted and probably appear to him as desperate and what-not. (he did *shamelessly* dump me out of the blue without even giving me the courtesy of an explanation, although we dated for more than a year and discussed marriage). Yet, I was just curious to know if he was single and what became of him (and to see if he was the same woman-hating, superficial, womanizer trolling the internet for the next woman he could hurt).
However, as soon as I noticed this feature, I totally hid my profile. The question remains: will it automatically just disappear from his "who's viewed" list? I hope so. Also, there's some question about log-in times. I am now thinking he may have beat me to the punch (e.g. -- looked at the list before I had a chance to realize it was there and hide my profile). While I am not quite mortified, I don't want the creep to still think I have a think for him!
Yet, I also think if someone views you, he/she should contact you if he/she is interested. Otherwise, who cares??!! (although it is creepy when someone looks constantly and doesn't write you. I'd be inclined to tell them off -- but that's me - lol.).
I don't mind the idea. because it meant you were at least semi interesting,
but maybe shy, and didnt wink. Or - that was their japanese style wink -
very subtle.
I would definately send a wink to a girl that I knew viewed my profile.
I guess its just a different way of thinking on it.
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