Match users - hidding profile

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Match users - hidding profile
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 9:29am
I was wondering if this ever happens: You hide your profile from the public and it later becomes public again. Does this ever happen?

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 9:47am
Not to me- I've seen certain profiles have issues such as pictures that don't display correctly. So I'm guessing that a mistake could be made. If a guy is telling you that he hid his profile and it suddenly became viewable -- then I'd take that with a large grain of salt.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 11:57am

It probably *could* happen, but it'd be fairly rare.

If someone is telling you it happened to them on accident, like LG suggests, I'd be veeeerrrrrryyyyyy skeptical.

But if you hid the profile and it later popped back up, it might be that you hid it right as they were doing some kind of database update or something, and they reverted to an older version that still had it viewable.

Still, it would be extremely rare.

Then again, a while ago someone here had a picture appear on their profile of someone who was definitely NOT them, so weird things do happen from time to time.

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Registered: 07-18-2004
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 3:09pm
I have heard of that happening. At least that was what my ex told me. Somehow, out of the blue his profile popped up and a friend told me about it. No, I didn't believe him. Computers can be tricky, I just don't think they can work magic like that.
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Registered: 07-10-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 3:27pm

The reason I asked is because of the guy I am dating. He wanted to be exclusive - he asked. So I hid my profile. He had already done so a few days before we met up. He said he only signed up for one month but hid it prior to the expiration date I think. So now I happen to go look and I see his profile is back up. I asked him about it and he said, "I know. My friend was on Match and told me my profile was back up. Not sure how that happened I think it might do that after 30 days renew itself or something. I need to get rid of it."

I don't know what to think. It was his idea to be exclusive and he is saying he is going to take care of it. I want to question him about it again. If his is going to be out there then I will put mine back up. I am still paid up for another two months and ended up starting a relationship with the first guy I went out with. I was planning on dating a little longer but I did like him a lot and want a relationship, so when someone tells you they want that with you, I figured I would put everything on hold to see what happens. I don't know what to do - wait a few days to see if he takes care of it or confront him again. I don't like questioning people, but it was his idea to be exclusive in the first place. I don't want to play games either way.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 3:50pm

Well, I'm curious as to how you "happened to go look". :-) Not giving you a hard time at all, but why did you look? Did you have a feeling? Did you not trust him? Did you just want to check to see if he was telling the truth?

I personally think this is all a crock of hooey. I had my profile hidden for months and months on Match and it never once "popped back up" after a certain time. I had stopped being a paying member so it is possible that it happens for paying members (you might have to cancel your membership with them) but I still think that it is pretty far fetched. I say give it a few more days and check again. See the activity level (i.e., Active within 24 hours). If he has been active recently, he has gone out there but not deleted the profile. Of course, the Active status has been known to be a little unreliable too. But it seems pretty standard that you stay at "Active w.i 24 hours" until after 3 days. So maybe wait until the first of next week? See what it says. Hopefully he really is trustworthy and it did just happen that way and the profile will be gone anyway. Right now, unfortunately, you just don't have any proof one way or the other and you could come off looking like the irrational one if you confront him again so soon without absolute proof that it DIDN'T happen the way he said it did. A few more days of patiently waiting should give you a better answer.

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 4:00pm

I went online to delete some of old messages or just look at them. I opened his old email just "wondering" and there it was in view. Makes me wondering how he noticed when I hide mine.

As far as the 24 hours status/online now - won't it say online now when you are actively online and not necessarily in Match.com. Seems like it says that every time you are logged in to the computer (I think that is the default). Correct me if I am wrong, because I wondered about that.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 4:05pm

So...has he gotten rid of it? It takes about 10 seconds to do so...

I think the whole thing sounds pretty dubious, however.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 4:06pm
lg is our resident Match status expert but as far as I know, no. It only shows Online Now if you are actually signed into Match. Same with the Active within XX status. They have no way of knowing if you are on your computer unless you are logged into Match. At least I hope not! That is too Big Brother for me!

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 4:13pm
If you have AOL for example it automatically will log you in to Match when you sign in to AOL. That's what I think mine did. You can turn it off if you want to.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 4:22pm
Gotcha. OK, then if he has AOL, the "Active Within" won't be so accurate, but still. If he hasn't deleted within a couple of days, call him on it again.

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