Match users - hidding profile

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Match users - hidding profile
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 9:29am
I was wondering if this ever happens: You hide your profile from the public and it later becomes public again. Does this ever happen?

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 5:36pm

I'm assuming that

 

 

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2003
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 5:46pm

Automatic logging in does not take your profile from hidden to unhidden. You can log on and cruise around while your profile is hidden.

While this could be a glitch in the system, I think your friend is trying to have his cake and eat it too.

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 8:58am

So I confronted him about his profile being back up last night. (No, I didn't have the patience to wait a few days). This is the situation: We have been talking for probably three weeks. Have only seen each other twice and the Sunday before last he asked to be exclusive to see what happens. He always said how he wants to get married and have kids in the future. So he basically says he is looking for something serious and not just wanting to date around. Well, I didn't see him last week because he had his son during the week and I had my kids and work anyway. We were suppose to do something on Saturday but his friend called me and said he had to go to the hospital the night before. He was severly dehydrated and that he would be sleeping most of Saturday so he would call me on Sunday. I already knew he had this dehydration problem at times, partly because he only has one kidney. Then we made tentative plans for Tuesday for him to come up, depending on the weather (snow storm). When I called him at 6:30 Tuesday night, he said someone was there and that he would call me back. Well, he never called back. I was so pissed that night, having to wait by the phone to see whether to expect him or not just for him not to call back. So I called him Wed morning and he tells me how his little cousin got some girl pregnant and they all had to get together and talk about it. He was back home late so figured he would call me the next day and I would understand. I am understanding but all I wanted was a quick yes or no from him instead of leaving me hanging for awhile for his call! This is also when I confronted him about seeing his Match profile up and he told me he doesn't know why but he will take care of it.

OK, sorry so long ----- just need advise on the situation.

I called him last night and asked him again if he wanted to come over because it was my last night alone without the kids. He said his shoulder was bothering him. Whatever - it wasn't planned anyway. I told him I don't like having to ask him to do things and told him I don't believe him about the Match profile thing. He told me he took care of it yesterday afternoon. I said I just saw it up and he still said the same thing. I explained how it was his idea to be exclusive and if he wants to date other people to just tell me. He says he isn't seeing anyone and doesn't play games like that. He said he would call me back after dinner and never did. About 50% of the time he doesn't call back when he says he will. I don't know about all of you but that pisses me off. I'd lik to have a relationship with him, but I am suspicious and tired of not seeing him or not getting calls back half the time. I don't want to have the "where do we stand" talk with him again! God, it has only been two weeks, I feel like I am being a pain. But what choice do I have, put my profile up without telling him I am going to start talking to other people again or have another talk!

By the way, his profile is still up this morning. I "tested" mine by hidding it and putting it on public view. Both times it came up the right way in searches right away. So there shouldn't be a delay if he "blocked it yesterday".

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:06am
My advice would be to move on. It sounds like he gives you alot of excuses. Stop calling him so much and let him make the next move.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 11:08am
The whole not calling back thing kind of reminds me of a guy I took up with late last summer.

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