Match.com versus eHarmony

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
Match.com versus eHarmony
5
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 1:01am

A male friend of mine has ventured into the world of OLD.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2006
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 2:09am
I must be unfeminine. I hated e-harmony. I hated not having enough information about the guy right away. Both sites give pictures. What match.com (and yahoo, and a few others) does differently than e-harmony is let you read the guy's own words. E-harmony just lets people write tiny bits about themselves. Very unsatisfying. (Perfect Match, the service advertised all over i-village is the same way.) I think match and yahoo are better for people who like to think for themselves, regardless what sex.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 4:46pm

I wasn't fond of it, either, because it seemed like you didn't find out about deal breaker stuff (he wanted a particular lifestyle and wasn't inclined to move) for weeks!


Well, it looks like the odds are better for females on Match anyway!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2005
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 8:19am

They are all the same in my book, if you've done online dating on one site you've done them all.

I've done online dating off and on since my divorce 8 years ago and the same type of men can be found on either site. I've never done yahoo, but I find match.com the least of my favorites, I find it the most "meat market"ish...and I would prefer someone who can actual read a profile and not just look at my picture. I don't care if men are visual creatures or not, if they don't take the time to read my profile I don't talk to them and 90% of the men I came across on match definitely DID NOT read they just saw the picture and sent an email you could tell by the questions they asked. So if they are that lazy in the beginning no thanks.

I didn't mind eharmony and I can certainly think for myself. I have never used a generic response from there, I almost always wrote my own and you still have to fill out a profile and I preferred the stages and eliminating people along the way rather than starting to talk to someone and then finding out that you don't like them and you are already emailing/imming and then having to shut them down. But I am not fond of the price.

But those are the big "dating" sites. And I have found I prefer the smaller dating sites not as popular as Match or eharmony. They have better features for free, etc.

Smile,

Deirdre

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 6:52pm

And I have found I prefer the smaller dating sites not as popular as Match or eharmony. They have better features for free, etc.


Name names!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2007
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 5:13am

Hi,

I'm new here and have lurked a bit on this board because I've had a little experience with OLD. About a year ago, I met a man with whom I seemed to have everything in common. Well, I guess one of us thought we did. He was pretty rude and told me all about the previous women he dated before meeting me. He also told me that he was still in looooove with both of these women, whom he met via OLD. He wouldn't let himself fall in looooove with me because he was still in loooove with Brenda and Diane. Oh-kay! Obviously things did not work out and I started getting angry that this guy was having a blast doing OLD while I was trying to do it the old fashioned way.

I was so p*ssed off at him then we broke up for good, I signed up for a couple of online dating sites. If he could do it, so could I! To answer your question, I I did both Match.com and eHarmony. My biggest complaints about eHarmony is that my expectations soared into the sky over the notion of two gentlemen who were interested in getting to know me. The first guy decided that I must be fat because I told him I'm about a 12-14. The second one lived out of state and we were going to get together but he cancelled the night before we were to go. I was really hurt over that one because I had started to like him quite a bit. I think what hurt the most was that I had gotten my hopes way too high. I figurd that if these guys were chosen, on a basis of compability, for me, that we must have something in common. In the end, we didn't and I just took my profile off the site---too frustrating for me.

I had much better luck on Match.com. I liked being able to "wink" at a man if Iwas interested or saw that he had noticed my profile. I met some nice guys, some troubled guys, but mostly normal, decent guys on Match. I also met the man I'm going to marry on Match.

Good luck!

Moogie