Match.com this weekend...

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Match.com this weekend...
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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 8:28pm

Has anyone else had an INSANE amount of winks this weekend??

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 7:48am

I have not noticed an uptick in winks. I'm letting my subscription run out in May, so we'll see if things "heat up" closer to that time.

Winks: If you are at all interested in a guy who winks, why not just wink back? I usually don't respond to winks, but I did wink back to a guy who winked at me and we eventually ended up meeting (he followed up my wink with an email. We met but never went out, which was just fine with me). I did wink

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 6:34pm

I'm betting it has something to do w/ you de-activating your profile and then putting it back again.

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 6:36pm

What's this stuff about not logging on on the weekends?

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 8:00pm

Yes, it's so you will seem busy and be perceived as "A Creature Unlike Any Other." They (it's written by two women) feel that if a man doesn't have to pursue you that he will lose interest or take you for granted. They also advise writing short emails---only if he sends one---and that if he doesn't ask you out within three emails to drop him. They also advise not answering his emails for 24 hours. They advise against IMing---again, you're not available all the time to just anyone who wants to chat.

There is a kernel of truth to what they say, although I think waiting 24 hours is a bit much. It's an interesting book (The Rules for Online Dating) even if you don't follow any of their rules. I think they very accurately describe the whole OLD world.

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 11:53pm
The Rules? ha, I've never heard of it, I should check it out!

I don't mind winking back if I'm actually interested in the guy...but, no offense, 98% of them, I'm not interested in...so I wind up just ignoring their wink...if I'm slightly interested in someone and they wink I still do nothing...and I actually probably become less interested in them... Ugh: I think I just am not a fan of the dating pool in my current location, which is why I'm online to begin with...but at the same time seems like most of these guys are the same ones that are everywhere else I could meet them! (Today is apparently a whiny day, my apologies!)

I've never heard of "The Rules!" I will definitely initiate contact if I really think someone is awesome, but I've probably initiated like 7 or 8 contacts ever on Match!
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 11:56pm
Hahaha, well usually I am actually busy day, night, week day, or weekend...
I don't know why I avoid logging in on the weekends!!!
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 12:05am
Maybe that's it, I'm coming up as "new?" I did only get 2 today, so it has definitely tapered off...

That's the most frustrating thing...you can spend 20 minutes coming up with 2 cute and hilarious little sentences to comment about their profile and BAM they never reply.

What do you all do when you receive emails from people you don't have a desire to speak with? I have only ever received 1 "No Thanks" and received mostly lots of (no responses) ....

To be honest though, I don't reply to emails if I'm not interested....to be even MORE honest...this is probably bad, but if I have no interest in them I typically don't open the email at all...ESPECIALLY when the subject says something like "ohh yer sooo sexxxy" or something equally as yuuuck! :(
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 6:06am

Not that you asked me, but I just don't respond if I'm not interested, even if they write an email. I have sent "thanks, but no thanks" notes before, and I have gotten back some real nasty-grams, so the few have ruined it for the many in this case.

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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 2:13pm

I've seen comments (mostly from men) on online dating forums that they prefer receiving a negative response than not hearing anything from the woman. In a way, when someone makes an effort to write a nice email to you, it's not cool when you just ignore it. I don't mean the '''hi, what's up'' emails though, these ones didn't put any efforts, so not a big deal. I did receive a couple of ugly emails (actually one was because they guy saw that I read his message, but didn't reply within a few hours), so now I just block them after my negative reply, just in case :).

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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 4:34pm

I find those "Rules" women immensely irritating.

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