Has anyone else had an INSANE amount of winks this weekend??
I have not noticed an uptick in winks. I'm letting my subscription run out in May, so we'll see if things "heat up" closer to that time.
Winks: If you are at all interested in a guy who winks, why not just wink back? I usually don't respond to winks, but I did wink back to a guy who winked at me and we eventually ended up meeting (he followed up my wink with an email. We met but never went out, which was just fine with me). I did wink
I'm betting it has something to do w/ you de-activating your profile and then putting it back again.
What's this stuff about not logging on on the weekends?
Yes, it's so you will seem busy and be perceived as "A Creature Unlike Any Other." They (it's written by two women) feel that if a man doesn't have to pursue you that he will lose interest or take you for granted. They also advise writing short emails---only if he sends one---and that if he doesn't ask you out within three emails to drop him. They also advise not answering his emails for 24 hours. They advise against IMing---again, you're not available all the time to just anyone who wants to chat.
There is a kernel of truth to what they say, although I think waiting 24 hours is a bit much. It's an interesting book (The Rules for Online Dating) even if you don't follow any of their rules. I think they very accurately describe the whole OLD world.
Not that you asked me, but I just don't respond if I'm not interested, even if they write an email. I have sent "thanks, but no thanks" notes before, and I have gotten back some real nasty-grams, so the few have ruined it for the many in this case.
I've seen comments (mostly from men) on online dating forums that they prefer receiving a negative response than not hearing anything from the woman. In a way, when someone makes an effort to write a nice email to you, it's not cool when you just ignore it. I don't mean the '''hi, what's up'' emails though, these ones didn't put any efforts, so not a big deal. I did receive a couple of ugly emails (actually one was because they guy saw that I read his message, but didn't reply within a few hours), so now I just block them after my negative reply, just in case :).
I find those "Rules" women immensely irritating.