Matchmaker, stick a fork in me I'm DONE!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Matchmaker, stick a fork in me I'm DONE!
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 5:19pm
I had become a non-paying member on Matchmaker and I thought (I KNOW I did) made my profile invisible because I got either weirdos or perverts on that site. Well, I went out there just to see if Mr. Clingon had contacted me through the site (he did a couple weeks ago and I didn't email back). Well, he hadn't but a 70 year-old whose wife "is no longer interested in physical and emotional intimacy" with him did. I read the lengthy profile with my mouth hanging open - WTF? :-) When I get home tonight, I am not just hiding the profile on MM, I am deleting!

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Registered: 04-13-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 5:25pm
I don't blame you a bit! I've deleted my account on lavalife partly because of getting so many older men trying to get a date with me. I mean, please! There's not many from my area on any of these sites anyway so I don't see the point in me wasting time on them anyway.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 5:34pm

Fine, go.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 5:48pm
I won't go back to MM, that is for sure! I did it on a whim b/c an article in a local magazine praised it so highly (obviously Matchmaker paid them a LOT of money to say that or it was a flat out lie). I've still got a profile on Match which is doing OK and my latest round with eH is over on Sunday. I plan on deleting my profile with them too - over 300 matches and no one that I would consider going on a second date with. OLD is exhausting!

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Registered: 04-21-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:21pm
Just thinking out loud here, but maybe we should give some of these older guys a chance.
As long as they have medical and life insurance, maybe it would work out better than dating some of these younger dorks.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:23pm
LOL. Sorry - someone almost 15 years older than my father is ummm.... gross.

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Registered: 06-28-2004
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 8:14am

My latest stepmother is the same age as my sister, which means there is a 20 year age difference! However, I am with you...I prefer a guy to be within a 10 year age spread, especially since I have 2 young children! My father is too exhausted to be chasing after my 6 yr. old for too long! Then again, so am I! LOL

Jennifer

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 10:39am

vexer...


cl-pianoguy is going to stifle most of his comments

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Registered: 06-28-2004
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 10:56am

Hi Pianoguy,

I can't understand eHarmony? They seem to have some very weird criteria? How do they determine who gets in and who doesn't? I've been with them now for a little over a year. I have never even had a date! I recently decided that their service is not for me. I think that if I save that money I can go on a singles cruise or something and have better luck!!! LOL

Jennifer

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 11:08am

Hi Jennifer!


Pianoguy isn't an expert on eharmony.....but after taking their "complimentary profile" (worth $40.00 according to eharmony advertising)....I think it's based a point system?


In other words....each of us has to have so many "points" that correspond with others in order to be matched up!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 11:09am

OK, I don't see how saying that *I* would not date someone 15 years older than my father is cruel?!?! I am saying that is MY personal view and I am not trying to push that onto others or anything. The fact that I don't want to date a 70 year old and come out here to vent about it - how is that cruel!?!? If I had sent back a scathing email to him of "ICK! You are a disgusting old man, how dare you even contact me when you are 15 years older than my father, ick, blech, patooie!" - now that would be cruel. Doing the delete and ignore on that one and coming here on an ONLINE MESSAGE BOARD to vent is appropriate, I think.

I understand that each person has their own views on age and that some people might be comfortable dating someone who is 70 when they are 34. I didn't tell anyone out here that if they made that choice that there is anything wrong with that for THEM. It is just not for ME. How is my comment about what *I* choose to do stereotyping? If you took it that way, I am sorry, but it is MY preference that I was saying out here. And I didn't make the insurance joke. Also, that is fine if to have friends of all ages. You can learn a lot from younger and older people. The fact that I am NOT going to date a 70 year old has nothing to do with that! I am very active and young at heart. I don't want to date someone that old, but that is me - if you want to date a woman 36 years your junior or senior, more power to you and that is admirable. I am not looking for that for ME.

I have to admit to not getting most of your post and thinking that you really didn't understand me at all. I KNOW also that there are no guarantees - I didn't ask for a guarantee. I am saying that I didn't enjoy my experience on MM because it was freaks and perverts so I have quit that one. I haven't found eH to be worth the money and it is no better than any other service so I am quitting that one too. I have been dabbling in OLD for more than 2 years and found no one worth dating long term. If anyone knows there are no guarantees, it is me.

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