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Maybe honesty really is best.
| Wed, 11-23-2005 - 1:28pm |
I sent a "curtesy reply" to someone who e-mailed me repeatedly on Yahoo. I was completely uninterested, but in the spirit of manners, I told him that I thought we lived too far away. Well, he e-mailed me AGAIN and told me that he works near-by where I live (once again, I'm glad I didn't use the real town). This time, I just deleted the message. Maybe that's what I should have kept doing all along!
Have you guys ever had any problems with cyber-stalking or phone, or real stalking?? I had a guy who would NOT stop calling and texting me after a few dates when I broke it off. It's really scary & has made me much more cautious...and I was already cautious!!

I get more men thanking me for letting them know I wasn’t interested as opposed to ignoring/deleting all together so I try to send a no thanks email to them. I use the standard, I don’t think we’re a good match but good luck in your search’ type of reply (this way they can’t argue with you i.e. distance or whatever just basically no thanks will suffice). Only once did someone say “thank you but your reply wasn’t even necessary and yet he still was nice about it’.
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I find that many guys will email you repeatedly until you email them back. In the beginning I didn't want to send a "no thanks" because I felt bad. But then I started getting annoying emails because I didn't respond. You would think that if someone doesn't reply...one would know that they weren't interested :) A couple have even gotten mad.
So then I tried emailing back and letting them know I wasn't interested, but then I found that they would reply and tell me why I should give them a chance. So then I wound up ignoring their emails again...
One time I met this guy for lunch (against my better judgment) and he wouldn't stop calling me. He called me every day for two weeks and I never returned his calls. Now one might say that I could have picked up the phone and said I wasn't interested...but something told me I didn't want to go down that road with him. So, I finally emailed him through the dating website and told him I was taking a hiatus from dating. Well, he emailed me back and told me I was a fraud basically because if I wasn't interested in dating, I shouldn't be on a dating website...blah blah blah. Then another email came, this one was worse, tell me I was full of #%$@ and I was probably still dating....keep in mind, I never saw him/talked to him again after the ONE time we met (for like 2 hours). This is not the only guy that has had this sort of reaction.
I know that I will call you once (usually returning a call) and if you don't call me back, I have enough self-respect (and respect for their choice) to not pursue it--they're not interested OR THEY WOULD CALL BACK. Why can't these guys have the same outlook?