Maybe they're right, but I just can't

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Maybe they're right, but I just can't
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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 10:39am

So I've put my profile back up on Yahoo personals because I'm just not having much luck with the guys I'm meeting in real life or the ones on Myspace. I am not a paying member on Yahoo yet though.

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Registered: 07-21-2004

Goodness, no, I could never do that!

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Registered: 10-02-2003

If it were that easy, we'd just have a checklist of personality, looks, temperament, hobbies and finding a match would be a piece of cake! Hey that is just what our profile is for---and we still have to do all the legwork.

And I don't think there is a point in forcing yourself to spend time with someone you're not interested. It isn't going to be fun for either of you! That is just like what the last five years of my marriage were like-struggling to make conversation with someone with whom I had few common interests and even fewer values.

I guess if you had time and inclination you could meet for a drink without committing to an entire meal. I've realized that I don't have time for that kind of dating right now, maybe later.

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, Mark. I know, I know, but it's true. My friend is married to a guy that she says is hot, and I have no idea what she's talking about. Most other people don't think he's good-looking, either, but she does. I have another friend who is engaged to a guy who isn't the best-looking. She says when she first met him, she thought he was really ugly, but when she got to know him, she found him really attractive. People are so different and there are so many standards of beauty. What turns one person off could be really attractive to someone else.
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Registered: 03-15-2004

Hi Stace - well, I know what you mean. I would find it really hard to go on a date with someone I had NO attraction to, or was turned OFF by, b/c well ... the expectation is we are attracted to someone IF we say yes to a date.

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Registered: 09-27-2004
I agree, you can't force attraction if there is absolutely none there, but if there is just a little bit of something about someone that you may like to begin with, it definately can grow from there. If you are completely turned off by someone then it probably wont' work. The new guy I've been seeing is a total cutie and a sweetheart. I was completely attracted to his picture but when he called me I was thrown for a loop by his voice since it was kind of dorky and high and didn't expect that but he seemed so kind on the phone. I met up with him and he was just as cute in person as in his pictures and definately something there with him. There was never this "huge lustful chemistry" or anything but there is definately a connection and attraction and I feel very comfortable with him. There has to be a little something there even if the person isn't completely your type looks-wise. I don't think I would be attracted at all to someone that looked like George on Seinfeld either!
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Registered: 03-15-2004

lol- poor George!

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A man I was seeing who was in the Navy had the most sexy voice. He had a very slight southern drawl that you could barely hear but it was there and just a soothing, deep voice. So I know what you mean about those nice voices that can make you so attracted to someone. The man I'm seeing now has a different sounding voice for a guy and it did throw me for a loop because he looks like he would have a deeper voice but after meeting up with him a few times it's falling by the wayside because of his personality and just how cute he is altogether. The most adorable smile and eyes with so much expression.
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One of my ex-boyfriends was from northern Florida near the Georgia line, so he had a very sexy voice with a southern drawl.

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I know, I love the southern drawl when it's just slightly there, very sexy. My ex Navy pilot man was from North Carolina. He's half Japanese and half white, very cute mix with a southern drawl. You would never expect that he would have such an accent but that's what made it so cute and sexy. I think I'll always think he's sexy even though I know he's not right for me, sad but true....

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