To Meet or Not to Meet
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|Thu, 08-13-2009 - 1:45am|
So I've been exchanging e-mail and a couple of phone calls with this guy, and he has suggested that we get together on Friday evening. I am undecided because:
1. It's in the evening, not the afternoon. (I prefer first meets to be in the afternoon. And yes, I told him so, but evening works better for him.)
2. The place he proposes to meet is almost an hour away from my house. (There is a reason--the place is the best jazz bar in the area, and there are no jazz bars near where I live.)
3. He is a bit full of himself, and I am wondering if I will enjoy his company.
On the other hand,
A. I like the jazz bar he suggested we meet in, and I haven't been there in a long time. It might be fun to go again.
B. He is intelligent and a good talker. I've enjoyed most of our exchanges (except when he mentions his ex, but I discussed that elsewhere).
C. I don't have a lot of dates. Even if I end up deciding I don't want to go out with him again (or he ends up deciding he doesn't want to go out with me again), the evening could be fun. I mean, jazz music, a couple of drinks, two people who share some interests and have had good e-mail and phone communication. Why not?
I'm probably just being picky when it worries me that he didn't listen to my preference for a daytime meeting or express concern about the distance I'd be driving. Living in the south spoils you for certain little courtesies, but this guy is not from the south.
One way or another, I need to decide this evening and phone him back tomorrow. (Luckily for me I was not in when he phoned, so he left a voicemail msg.)