I'm sorry you didn't have a good date. Sounds like he's just not the guy for you. Hopefully the next one will be a lot better.
<<< NWW and those in favor of not emailing after the date: You convinced me. I had decided even at the beginning that even if I thought I would date him again I wasn't going to email him when I got home. I agree now, I like that approach better. >>>
I don't like this. Here's why: he asked you out on another date. I think a response is appropriate, I really do. Block him if you have to after sending the email, since he might not be a guy who will take it well.
There has always been a big division regarding this issue on the board. I can agree with Sheri and others to a point, but where we differ is after you have actually gone on a date. I know, he will get the hint, but that just seems worse to me. The one time a girl ghosted after my request for a second date, I just felt like she thought the date was so bad that I was not even worthy of an email. So, I am probably just bringing personal preference into the debate, and I realize that.
Of course, I'm not in your situation and you need to do what you feel most comfortable doing.
Eric - I don't think the issue is responding to an email request for a second date (although I do think he should have called rather than emailed). By all means, you should respond to an invitation.
I think it's the "I said thank you for dinner in person, I want to see him again, should I ALSO email him to thank him" that noone seems to agree on.
But maybe I've missed a bunch of posts on the issue - I haven't been keeping up very well lately.
I would respond to his email asking you out with a simple, thanks, I enjoyed meeting you but don't think we are a match, and then BLOCK him immediately, because he almost certainly WILL send you a nasty-gram or two.
I agree that a response of some kind would be nice. He didn't sound horrible,- just not right for you. I think being polite is the best way, almost always. But I am old- fashioned that way. I have also seen that this board is divided on the issue of ghosting, responding -vs-not responding. It's interesting and I am paying attention.
You say that he has gained weight. Does he have enough money to order enough food to fill himself? That is important. Can he still fit into the chairs at the movie theater? In case you want to see a movie. You said he cussed. I don't trust people who don't cuss at all. One has to display their disgust with idiots. Ignorance is bliss. So I don't want some dumb happy go lucky dude. But if he is saying crude things that offend you I understand. You said he looked you up and down towards the end of the date. Maybe the weed that he had smoked earlier just hit him wrong way. Well whatever you decide good luck! And I hope you meet a skinny noncussing weed hater soon.
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I'm sorry you didn't have a good date. Sounds like he's just not the guy for you. Hopefully the next one will be a lot better.
<<< NWW and those in favor of not emailing after the date: You convinced me. I had decided even at the beginning that even if I thought I would date him again I wasn't going to email him when I got home. I agree now, I like that approach better. >>>
I don't like this. Here's why: he asked you out on another date. I think a response is appropriate, I really do. Block him if you have to after sending the email, since he might not be a guy who will take it well.
There has always been a big division regarding this issue on the board. I can agree with Sheri and others to a point, but where we differ is after you have actually gone on a date. I know, he will get the hint, but that just seems worse to me. The one time a girl ghosted after my request for a second date, I just felt like she thought the date was so bad that I was not even worthy of an email. So, I am probably just bringing personal preference into the debate, and I realize that.
Of course, I'm not in your situation and you need to do what you feel most comfortable doing.
Eric
Eric - I don't think the issue is responding to an email request for a second date (although I do think he should have called rather than emailed). By all means, you should respond to an invitation.
I think it's the "I said thank you for dinner in person, I want to see him again, should I ALSO email him to thank him" that noone seems to agree on.
But maybe I've missed a bunch of posts on the issue - I haven't been keeping up very well lately.
Yes, that's how I read FA's post as well...that she'd decided she wasn't going to send a "thank you" email since she'd already said "thank you."
Sheri
I would respond to his email asking you out with a simple, thanks, I enjoyed meeting you but don't think we are a match, and then BLOCK him immediately, because he almost certainly WILL send you a nasty-gram or two.
Sheri
I agree that a response of some kind would be nice. He didn't sound horrible,- just not right for you. I think being polite is the best way, almost always. But I am old- fashioned that way. I have also seen that this board is divided on the issue of ghosting, responding -vs-not responding. It's interesting and I am paying attention.
Sara
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