Meeting Each Other

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Registered: 04-22-2006
Meeting Each Other
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:37am
I have met this guy online (of course) and we have been talking for a few weeks now. We talk for hours almost every night. We have a lot in common, we have the same type of job, go to the same college, listen to the same music, are intertested in the same sports, and are both the same age. If I dont talk to him one night, I feel like I havent talked to him in days. We have both invited each other over several times, but neither one of us want to make that first step. I would rather meet him somewhere where I am comfortable and I think he feels the same. Is it that he doesnt want to meet up? I dont understand. He will text me on my phone when he is out with his friend and not on the computer. I feel like that says he is thinking about me, but Im not sure. Is it even possible to get so attached with someone I havent even met? Please give me your feedback and if you have ever been in this situation. I would really appreciate it! ~Thanks
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mms05e
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:42am

You should meet in a public place for coffee--do NOT go to his place or have him come to yours. You don't KNOW this guy--all you know are the words he types (which may or may not be true and accurate).

It is possible to feel attached, but it's all fantasy and projection at this point--you need to meet and spend time in person to get to know someone. Back when I first started OLD, I didn't know better and thought that if I connected with someone online, we'd automatically connect in person, too, and that turned out to be SO not the case with most people!! Ask him to meet you for coffee, and go from there.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: mms05e
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 12:04pm

I totally agree with Sheri on all points.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 04-22-2006
In reply to: mms05e
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 5:31pm
Thanks for the responds!! I will suggest it to him tonight!