Meeting for first time--did you "know"?

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Meeting for first time--did you "know"?
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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 7:54pm

OK, here's a question for all of you who are either married or in a LTR with someone you met online:

When you met the person for the first time, did you both know right away that he/she was "the one"?

It just seems so much of what I've read supports this. You meet, you click, there's no drama, you just know. You start dating. It's almost effortless. None of this, "Well, maybe I should give it more time, maybe he was just nervous, maybe, maybe, maybe..."

And then on the other hand: If you're either married or in a LTR with someone you met online, did it take a long time to "know"? How long?

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Registered: 02-01-2005

It's been three months since I met my guy online, and no plans on either end to change that, so I guess we're in a LTR.

He and I have talked quite a bit about how naturally things progressed with us. There was no drama, not much wondering (there's always going to be *some*), no trying to explain each others actions. We just clicked, not just as friends, not just physically, but in all ways. Do I know he's the one? Maybe, maybe not. But both of us knew on our first date that we'd stumbled across something special.

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I'm not married, or in a LTR, but when I met me SO we clicked instantly and it has since been effortless.
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I am not married or in an LTR but I have discovered that the instant chemistry is not a good predictor.

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Registered: 01-28-2005

Yup, lotsa chemistry, no drama, no mixed signals, just felt very right. I did not know at once that he was the one, but I did in a few months. It just worked.

To this day it is smooth and no drama, and we are getting married this summer :) Thank you, Yahoo!Personals

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Registered: 02-25-2009

I woudlnt say Im in a LTR, or am that qualified to answer this b/c Im not sure he is "the one", but he is pretty darned close to what I am looking for.


I *will* say that I knew IMMEDIETLY, 1st by looks, & in seconds of seeing his personality in real life, that he was SO SO SO my type.


& as time has gone by, although he isnt perfect, on my list of "must haves" ... he has all of them. So yes, THAT I knew right away. I had those butterflies (still do!), I was SO excited when he asked me out for a 2nd date, while still on the 1st.

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When I first saw the guy I was meeting for the first time walk into the cafe where we were meeting...I remember thinking..."Yea, this is going to be a one-time-thing!" I don't know why I thought that...he's a good looking guy, but you could tell he was older than me, and I had never dated an older guy. I guess that made me feel insecure.

Well anyway, by the end of the 1st date, I had had so much fun and I KNEW I wanted to see him again! It's three or four months later and we're still seeing each other. I don't feel that he is "it" for me...but we'll see what the future holds. As lg-ri said, "it's a blast while it lasts!"

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I had to LOL because we met at a fancy downtown restaurant.

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I met my boyfriend online and we had an instant connection. After our 13 hour second date, I knew that I wanted to continue spending time with him and getting to know him better. The more time we spent together I knew that he was the one I wanted to grow old with. We are still together, drama free, and planning for our future together. I've never had to wonder if he wanted to be with me or not, and I just know how much he adores and loves me very much.
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As corny as this sounds....Yes I did know.....we just clicked right away!

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When you met the person for the first time, did you both know right away that he/she was "the one"?


Nope.


And I had dates with people that I met via OLD that I thought for SURE they were "the one"... and plainly that turned out to not be the case.


I had great chemistry with my wife from the get-go, but it wasn't like the whole magical "she's the one" kind of thing. I thought she *might be* someone I could marry, but for whatever reason it wasn't immediately obvious.