Meeting at Home
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| Thu, 03-10-2005 - 9:36pm |
Is it too early to meet someone for a 2nd date at their home? Does this generally indicate they are looking for sex, or is that not always the case? My previous experiences lead me to believe that casual sex was the main reason for the early invite to the home. (And I don't do casual sex!)
Well, against my better judgement, I just had a 2nd date with a guy at his home! However, the vibes were that I felt I could trust him, and nothing happened that I didn't want to happen. However, once I got over there, I realized I was uncomfortable with being in someone's home I didn't know well, because I just don't know the expectations!
Well, we did do some making out on the couch, and I stopped it after a brief period of time, because I just didn't know what he was expecting, and I actually told him this! I feel like an idiot, you'd think I'd know the rules/expectations by now!
He assured me he wasn't expecting me to have sex with him, but I have to wonder. I mean, he was obviously getting turned on. Do guys enjoy making out with someone, knowing they are not going to get any? Or is it more of an annoyance to them that you are willing to engage in some kissing and touching, but no more? I really need to figure this out, so I don't continue to make this mistake, if it even was one. I wonder what he thinks of me that I had to tell him I didn't know what he was expecting from me? What do you all think? BTW, I'm in my early 40's (divorced), but I still feel like an inexperienced teen at times. How long DOES it take to become and experienced dater? lol, never?

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LOL y'all,
Thanks for the replies Sparkle and NGOL! Funny is that my best friend (who married a man she met on Match, this past Nov.--so it Can happen!)said that her husband says the exact same thing.
NG, you can, then, imagine how a woman of 40 and over feels! I have heard our desire level at this age is very close to what a man goes through, and for them,it begins in their early teens. So....go figure...WHO decided to make the 'peaks' come at such Opposite times in life, sexually!? NOT that older men do not have the desires/wants/needs, it is just that the equipment failure sometimes overrides that desire!
I wish there was a Good explanation for that!?
Truly,
Cupcake
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