I'm not saying that he did or didn't lie, but I know I have a hard time telling height, sometimes, with men who are very close to my own height. My ex-husband, for example, was 5'9" (I'm 5'7") and I could have *sworn* when we were looking eye to eye that he was just my height. But put us back to back, and, sure enough, he was a couple inches taller. So, I'm just saying, maybe wait and see on that issue...
As for the other, I was *totally doing that with my date from last night! We had a decent time, and he's reasonably attractive...but I didn't really feel a strong connection, and I don't think he did either. But I would go out with him again if he asks, just to see if there's more of a connection next time.
Not at all. All I want to know from a first meeting is that he's somewhat normal and if he's interesting. Those are two things that attract me to someone.
Someone else said that her date became better looking as they got to know each other. That's how it works for me.
Again the height thing! I know men are self concious about their height, like women are about their boobs. I don't view it as a lie, but as vanity, sort of like a woman getting a boob job.
>>Self-conscious about boobs? Am I supposed to be self-conscious about my boobs?<<
You might as well be, because the odds are your DATES are conscious about your boobs. Sorry to break it to you, but that's how guys are. :)
No, seriously... the height thing... yes, I think he might be lying about it. But I think she's right- height is a very sensitive subject for guys who are shorter than, oh, about 5'9" or 5'10" or so.
Didn't someone here say that if a guy was 5'9" or shorter that the guy probably automatically adds two inches of height? It's not something I've thought about much, personally, because I'm tall- over 6'. Thank heavens- I have enough to be self-conscious and neurotic about. LOL
Anyway, it can be a bit hard to tell exactly how much taller/shorter someone is than us- unless it's drastic. I'd be less worried about the height (although it's a factor, especially if you're certain he's shorter and was lying about it) and instead more trying to see about the other things.
But good for you that you're not completely cutting bait on him right now, too. Maybe one more casual date, just to see for sure, is a good idea.
Since I've never dated a guy shorter than me, and I've always been more attracted to tall guys, I guess I can see where guys might be a little sensitive about it.
Maybe you should be hanging out at marathons and such? :) Aren't they always needing volunteers to hand out water, do registration, be that person at the finish line who wraps the runner up with one of those blankets? You could also hand out a little card with your number on it... ;)
FWIW, It seems to me that all guys just think that they are taller than they actually are. It isn't that they are lying, they really do think they are that tall. And, people do shrink a little bit as they age. Not always a drastic amount, but it does happen. Personally, I have reached a point that when I look at a profile if the guy does not have at least 5'10" I skip over it. I figure, if he has 5'10" he is probably my height of 5'8" and I could most likely be ok with that if it was the right person. I am not comfortable with dating men smaller than I am, it makes me feel like a big fat buffoon, lol, and I can't even imagine how it would be in the bedroom, I would be scared I would break them, lol. Sorry if that is shallow to some people, but it is how I feel about it.
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I'm not saying that he did or didn't lie, but I know I have a hard time telling height, sometimes, with men who are very close to my own height. My ex-husband, for example, was 5'9" (I'm 5'7") and I could have *sworn* when we were looking eye to eye that he was just my height. But put us back to back, and, sure enough, he was a couple inches taller. So, I'm just saying, maybe wait and see on that issue...
As for the other, I was *totally doing that with my date from last night! We had a decent time, and he's reasonably attractive...but I didn't really feel a strong connection, and I don't think he did either. But I would go out with him again if he asks, just to see if there's more of a connection next time.
Sheri
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Not at all. All I want to know from a first meeting is that he's somewhat normal and if he's interesting. Those are two things that attract me to someone.
Someone else said that her date became better looking as they got to know each other. That's how it works for me.
Again the height thing! I know men are self concious about their height, like women are about their boobs. I don't view it as a lie, but as vanity, sort of like a woman getting a boob job.
>>Self-conscious about boobs? Am I supposed to be self-conscious about my boobs?<<
You might as well be, because the odds are your DATES are conscious about your boobs. Sorry to break it to you, but that's how guys are. :)
No, seriously... the height thing... yes, I think he might be lying about it. But I think she's right- height is a very sensitive subject for guys who are shorter than, oh, about 5'9" or 5'10" or so.
Didn't someone here say that if a guy was 5'9" or shorter that the guy probably automatically adds two inches of height? It's not something I've thought about much, personally, because I'm tall- over 6'. Thank heavens- I have enough to be self-conscious and neurotic about. LOL
Anyway, it can be a bit hard to tell exactly how much taller/shorter someone is than us- unless it's drastic. I'd be less worried about the height (although it's a factor, especially if you're certain he's shorter and was lying about it) and instead more trying to see about the other things.
But good for you that you're not completely cutting bait on him right now, too. Maybe one more casual date, just to see for sure, is a good idea.
Since I've never dated a guy shorter than me, and I've always been more attracted to tall guys, I guess I can see where guys might be a little sensitive about it.
Actually, I was talking about a particular person.
FWIW, It seems to me that all guys just think that they are taller than they actually are. It isn't that they are lying, they really do think they are that tall. And, people do shrink a little bit as they age. Not always a drastic amount, but it does happen. Personally, I have reached a point that when I look at a profile if the guy does not have at least 5'10" I skip over it. I figure, if he has 5'10" he is probably my height of 5'8" and I could most likely be ok with that if it was the right person. I am not comfortable with dating men smaller than I am, it makes me feel like a big fat buffoon, lol, and I can't even imagine how it would be in the bedroom, I would be scared I would break them, lol. Sorry if that is shallow to some people, but it is how I feel about it.
Good Luck,
J
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