Men on multiple sites, including "adult"

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Men on multiple sites, including "adult"
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Mon, 10-26-2009 - 7:56am

Oh, WOW. I have no problem with men or women being on multiple dating sites (I'm on two). What rather amazes me is that they don't change their username on the various sites. And they use this same username on ADULT DATING SITES!!! YIKES! I guess I'm glad they do, this way I can track them down.

I discovered this quite by accident a while back. A man on POF had used a Latin phrase for his username. I innocently Googled the phrase for translation, and up popped about six dating sites, one of them "adult." Ewwww. And, I was thinking about replying to this guy (but didn't after that).

So, I decided to check on another man I met last December. This guy was so unbelievably rude and wanted to vehemently argue politics with me. He had seemed like such a good match for me too. Well, he's also on POF (but I met him through match.com) but decided to Google his username today (I know, get another hobby, right?). He's on a site called Eroticy, and he has checked off the box "Looking for discreet relationships or casual sexual encounter." GROSS!! And what's truly incredible, his Twitter account uses the same name. Now, this guy is self employed and I'm just thinking what if his clients Google him innocently, looking for his Twitter account or something. It was interesting when I met him: he seemed to take an instant dislike to me even before we talked politics. It makes more sense now: I just wasn't his erotic playmate fantasy in person, so he decided to just be as offensive as possible.

Having said all of this, I still believe that there are very sincere men online, so I'm not stopping or becoming paranoid, but you can best believe I will Google all usernames I am thinking of responding to.

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Im sorry, but I have NO IDEA whats "YIKES" or "Ewww" or "GROSS!!" about being an adult


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Registered: 03-26-2003

That's a good idea about googling the user name--I've heard that suggested in the past but I usually forget to do that.

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I guess it depends on what you are looking for. If people want casual sex and are both consenting, that's their business. Since I personally would feel uncomfortable doing that, I would be looking for a guy on match.com or wherever who said that he wanted "dating" or "friendship" for example. I also think that on the "regular" dating sites you could also say that you are just looking for casual sex. I think that maybe what the 1st poster is thinking, and what I would be thinking, is that maybe the person isn't truthful. If I were on match, I would avoid like the plague the guys who say they just want sex, so then if the same guy is on match saying he wants a relationship, but at the very same time he's on an "adult" site looking for sex, it seems strange. It could just be possible that he assumes that the women on the adult site he'll meet for sex and that he's still hoping for a relationship, but I wouldn't want to start dating someone and thinking he's picking up random women for sex on the side. But we all know that one or both people could say they want a relationship & still end up having sex on the first date anyway, or as you said, the opposite could happen.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Well put, thanks for clarifying.