Men with NO Time to Date

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Men with NO Time to Date
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:33am

Twice now I've talked to (both online and on the phone) with men who were supposedly interested in meeting me. But this last possible encounter sort of irked me to wonder what the deal is.

For starters, I work two jobs; have for many years and I don't anticipate quitting my second job anytime soon. However, I have made it clear that I would cut back my work hours in order to meet and date someone who had mutual interest. As a general rule, I also have set time off hours and never work Sundays. I also have vacation time I can use as well. It's not like I work 24-7. Financially, I don't have the luxury of making it with only one job. Many people are in the same situation as me. And while it might make it a bit harder to date someone, I am willing to make compromises in order to meet and get to know someone.

My latest online guy drives cross country with a trucking line. He isn't the main driver, but an "escort" driver. When we first talked, he said that although he is gone a lot, that he did have some time at home and knew several days in advance of his trips. He also said he planned to not be gone as much this year as he had last year--that he didn't have to take every job that came along. Sounds workable? Well, after the second or third conversation, I find out that he is sometimes only given 24 hours notice (or less). Three different times now we had "tentative" meets set up only to be cancelled due to his work.

I have no idea if we'd even have "chemistry" once we did meet. However, I'm finding it very odd that I continue to run into men with strange jobs and even stranger hours. Why would someone put their profile on a dating site when they have so little time to date or even meet someone?




Edited 1/9/2006 11:40 am ET by mitsy2

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:21pm
That could be true, but he needs to realize that his window of availability is quite limited as it stands though. Most women would like to be able to plan even a few days in advance of meeting for a date, but this guy's free time is so sporadic, I don't know how that would work. Maybe in time he will be able to make some changes with his work schedule, but until then, I can't sit around waiting for that to happen. As they say..next.
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Registered: 05-12-2005
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:49pm
That's true, 99% of women wouldn't go for it, but it's a big online world, he's maybe hoping to be the odds.

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