Men who are too polite!?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Men who are too polite!?
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 8:21pm

I got two messages from a guy I "smiled to" on Lava. Although he seems pretty decent in his profile, the messages made me think twice before respnding.too many "please, if you dont mind and if thats ok" in his messages which makes me think I should not waste my time emailing as he gives the impression of some passive desperate person. Do you get the same vibe?

MESSAGE 1
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Hi there,
Thank you for the smile you sent me. It was very nice of you. I'm interested in your profile and your picture. You are really cute:) Please let me know if you like to get to know each other more. Probably we can chat on MSN. Please let me know your MSN address if you don't mind.

Cheers,

XYZ
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MESSAGE 2

Hi J.,
Hope you have had a good weekend. Here is my backstage. Also if you don't mind I'd like to see your backstage please. I think if we want to keep to email communication we can do it from here as well:) But I'll send you an email to your yahoo address soon. Please let me know if you have any questions about me.

Take Care,

XYZ

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2005
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 9:55am

Wellll, I don't know. He definitely sounds polite, but you won't really know how bad the "Mr. Rogers" factor is until you have a chance to actually talk. Is he possibly from another country? He could also be very new to the online dating thing and treading carefully.

You might be pleasantly surprised :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:31am
Good grief. You're thinking of nexting a guy because he's too polite? I agree that all the pleases and "if you don't minds" are a bit over the top, but aren't there a lot of worse things in the world than being polite? Why not meet the guy or at least talk on the phone and see what he's like in person before deciding. His writing style could be very different than how he is in person.

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